Midlife with Brooke27 Okt 2025

Episode 24: Giving Advice to Adult Children – Thoughts from my lovely daughter, Megan

Every parent wonders when (and how) to give advice to their adult kids—and when to stay quiet. In this heartfelt episode of Midlife with Brooke, Brooke Oniki sits down with her daughter Megan for an honest, funny, and deeply insightful conversation about what it’s really like on both sides of that question.

Megan, age 24, shares her experiences navigating early adulthood—marriage, moving across the country, starting a career—and what’s actually helpful (and not so helpful) when parents offer advice. Together, she and Brooke unpack the unspoken dynamics between parents and grown children, including the emotional balance between wanting to help and needing to let go.

You’ll learn:

When advice feels supportive—and when it feels controlling
Why timing and tone matter more than the “perfect” words
The difference between fixing and listening
How parents can show love and confidence without overstepping
Real-life examples of what actually builds trust and connection

This is a must-listen episode for any mom learning to navigate her changing role in midlife and wanting to keep strong, lasting bonds with her adult children.

Reflection Prompts:

Do I give advice to ease my discomfort, or because my child asked for it?
What would it look like to listen longer and advise less?
How can I show confidence in my child’s ability to figure things out?

✨ Bonus for Listeners:

Brooke also recorded two private podcast episodes just for women in midlife:

Menopause Explained with Nurse Practitioner Gretchen Fors
Enjoying Sex in Midlife with Certified Sex Coach Julie Merrill

Access them here → Get the Bonus Episodes

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