EP332: Navigating Temptations, Trust, and Desire in the Social Media Era

Welcome to episode 269 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Searah Deysach to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss using full body exploration to lead to fingering, paying attention to non-verbal cues and ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood.    Searah Deysach is a sex educator and the owner of Early to Bed and FtM Essentials. In addition to running her retail store & websites, she lectures to community groups and colleges around the state on topics relating to masturbation, sex toys and positive sexuality.   She is committed to working to create a culture where everyone has access to honest information about sexuality and all folks have access to the services, they need to protect their reproductive rights.      In this episode, you will hear:     Using full body exploration to lead to fingering   The importance of light touch and strokes   How you can anticipation and excitement before fingering   Why slowing down to build up is important   How long should we be exploring other parts of the body?  The importance of communication with your partner  Building up excitement with your clothes still on   Ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood  Paying attention to non-verbal cues  Engaging in after-care after orgasm   Ways to add excitement without it becoming the main event     Find Searah Deysach Online  https://www.early2bed.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Feb 202223min

Welcome to episode 268 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Ashley Manta to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs, techniques you can use to stimulate testicles and looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”.    Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She is the author of The CBD Solution: Sex, published in 2020 in conjunction with Merry Jane and Chronicle Books. She completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson.     She is the host of Elevated Intimacy podcast and her online course portal, Elevated Intimacy Academy, provides self-paced sex education. She facilitates retreats and workshops at resorts and festivals around the world. She also offers an online sex magick, embodiment, and empowerment intensive called Activating Your Cosmic Pussy. She is a brand ambassador for Sybian.      In this episode, you will hear:     Ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs   How sexting can help in the sexual build up   Why it’s important to have lube   Looking at some of the best lubes on the market   The importance of having respect for yourself and your partner   Understanding your partners boundaries   Techniques you can use to play with and stimulate testicles   Ways you can stimulate the foreskin   Looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”   How you can build excitement for yourself as a giver   Looking at other male pleasure products to further enhance a handjob    Find Ashley Manta Online  https://www.elevatedintimacypodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

8 Feb 202236min

Welcome to episode 267 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Taylor Sparks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why impact play is hot for so many people, how impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy and looking at tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches.    Among many things, Taylor Sparks (aka Mariposa) is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior.  With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops.  Organic Loven specializes in improving adults’ sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, and erotic educational seminars.     Ms. Sparks’ expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men’s Health, Oprah, Shape, Women’s Health magazines and more. Prior to launching Organic Loven she developed a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products for elite endurance athletes, called Skin Care for Athletes Tri-Body Products. These products were featured in Muscle & Fitness Hers and the ESPN Magazines, sponsored numerous triathlons, 5ks and marathons as well as 5 Olympic athletes in both the summer and winter Olympics.     Taylor has also become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker both nationally and internationally. Her flagship seminar entitled,” How To Make Good Pussy, Better”, is extremely popular and focuses on the benefits of organic intimate body products and body safe sex toys.   Taylor is socially and environmentally conscious and a strong supporter in all things organic, natural and eco-friendly...including Love.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why impact play is hot for so many people   The importance of clear communication around spanking   How impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy   Looking at the areas of sensitivity best for impact play   Tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches   Analyzing the differences between giving and receiving impact play   Tips for the best way to use your hand for spanking   The mistakes people often make with impact play   Understanding it’s ok to take things slowly and pause if needed    Reignite The Fire Workshop:  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Find Taylor Sparks Online  http://OrganicLoven.com      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Feb 202237min

Welcome to episode 266 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Fredrick Zal to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes, how you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant and ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink.    Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.      They teach mindfulness, ritual, communication, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, tantra, kink, and other embodied erotic pathways with an ever broadening understanding of power differentials, socio-political impacts over the centuries, and ways to truly dismantle what they feel in their blood and bones to be a corrupt and flawed acculturalized system.      When not teaching or doing sexuality research; Fredrick endeavors to focus life around what they love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing 茶道 (Chado, Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes  Understanding that it’s normal to have interest in kink   How kink is centered around a heart and mind connection  Ways in which we can cultivate our emotions to fully embody kink  Looking at the differences between tops and bottoms  How you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant Understanding the powerplay dynamics and their relationship to kink Looking at ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink  The importance of after care and clear communication     Valentine's Day  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Fredrick Zal Online  http://www.tantrickink.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Jan 202255min

Welcome to episode 265 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Darshana Avila to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why is good kissing important for sex, understanding porn is not sex education, and how you can be more thoughtful in your communication.    Darshana Avila is nurturing a culture of Erotic Wholeness. As an internationally recognized speaker, coach and facilitator, Darshana supports women and couples in exploring and reshaping their relationships to intimacy, sex and eroticism. She created the Map of Erotic Wholeness as a path to personal liberation in service to our collective sexual liberation.      Darshana believes “we are erotic by nature,” and is dedicated to helping people feel truly at home in their bodies, at ease with their sexuality and in alignment with their hearts. Her unique style of somatic sex and intimacy coaching weaves together a trauma-informed, nature-based, justice-oriented approach, inviting more presence, pleasure and passion into the lives and relationships of those she guides.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Darshana became interested in this line of work   Understanding that trauma gets healed in the community   Ways in which you can learn to open up your sexual self   Understanding porn is not sex education   Why is good kissing important for sex?  How to communicate to your partner the types of kissing you like   The importance of build-up and foreplay for great sex   Recommendations for whole body experience to build u to great sex  Looking at the different types of kissing and styles   How you can be more thoughtful in your communication   The best ways you can explore touch     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Darshana Avila Online  http://darshanaavila.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Follow Us On Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Jan 202247min

Welcome to episode 264 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can give a killer blowjob, incorporating play into great oral sex, and understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex.    Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.      In this episode, you will hear:     How you can give a killer blowjob   The importance of your appreciating your lover and communicating that to them   Incorporating play into great oral sex   How to overcome things like gag reflex when giving a blowjob   When is the best time to also use your hands when giving a blowjob?  How you can also stimulate testicles when giving a blowjob   The importance of being sensitive when stimulating testicles   Overcoming the issue of not liking the taste of semen   Is it possible to change the taste of semen?  Understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex       Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Dr. Alison Ash Online  https://www.TurnON.love     Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course   Jan 11 - March 8th 2022    9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Jan 202224min

Welcome to episode 263 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the do’s and dont's of cunnilingus, recommendations for the receiver to feel comfortable receiving oral sex, and what are some of the best positions for oral sex.   Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.      In this episode, you will hear:     The do’s and dont's of cunnilingus How you can fine tune your rhythm with your partner   Dispelling the misconceptions around the smell of a vagina   Ways in which you can help put your partner at ease   Recommendations for the receiver to feel comfortable to receive oral sex   Looking at techniques such as “writing the alphabet with your tongue”   When is the right time to move onto penetration?   What are some of the best positions for oral sex?   Looking at experimenting with the 69 position for oral sex       Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Free Foreplay Checklist   Find Dr. Alison Ash Online  https://www.TurnON.love     Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course  Jan 11- March 8th 2022       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Jan 202230min

Welcome to episode 262 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer questions from our listeners. In this episode, we touch upon subjects such as tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner, misconceptions about the importance of penis size and what to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans.      In this episode, you will hear:     Knowing when the right time is to touch your partners clit   Tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner   Overcoming performance anxiety   Looking at spontaneous and responsive desire   What to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans   Understanding the motivations behind wanting to start an OnlyFans page   The importance of starting slow if your partner does start an OnlyFans page   How you can build up your sexual confidence  Misconceptions about the importance of penis size   Understanding your relationship with your body   Ways in which you can overcome sexual shame    Find Sexology Podcast Online  https://sexologypodcast.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Des 202124min