He Spent Decades Secretly Lusting—Now He Says Other Women Repulse Him—Should I Believe Him?
(Episode 351) A betrayed partner wrote to us about her husband’s roughly 33-year history of hidden lust addiction and a specific sexual fixation involving women’s bodies that remained secret througho...
22 Sep 44min
"I Choose You" Means Nothing If His Eyes and Actions Keep Choosing Others!
(Episode 350) For a betrayed partner, few things are more painful than hearing, “I choose you,” while continuing to discover that her partner’s eyes, attention, sexuality, and actions are still being...
16 Sep 42min
His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!
(Episode 349) Relapse in pornography or sex addiction absolutely matters, but it is often not the most fundamental threat to a relationship. The deeper crisis is what happens when relapse is followed ...
8 Sep 41min
Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?
(Episode 348) A betrayed partner who has a history of neglect, abuse, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment may find it especially difficult to identify and defend her own wants, needs, and boundaries...
31 Aug 44min
Can my Partner with 2 Decades of Porn Use & Years of Secrecy & Lying Genuinely Recover?
In Episode 347, a betrayed partner who recently ended a three-year relationship asks whether her former partner can genuinely recover after more than two decades of compulsive pornography use, high-ri...
25 Aug 43min
If He Doesn't Think Porn Is Bad, Can He Still Truly Recover??
In Episode 346, a betrayed partner wonders whether her husband can genuinely recover from pornography addiction when he admits that lying, hiding, gaslighting, and hurting her are wrong but still insi...
17 Aug 39min
My Addiction Shattered My Wife; She Wants a Divorce, but I Don't. Now What?!
In episode 345, a couple is facing the enormous aftermath of pornography addiction, sexual betrayal, deception, failed disclosure, and trickle truth. The husband reports that he is now 18 months sober...
11 Aug 42min
After his Gaslighting, Betrayal and Integrity Abuse, My Intuition is Broken!
Episode 344—Long-term betrayal and integrity abuse can severely disrupt a betrayed partner’s ability to trust her own perceptions. After repeatedly sensing that something was wrong, being told she was...
3 Aug 38min
