Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation1 Jul

Having More Time To Prepare Isn't Creating Certainty

You Don't Need More Time to Prepare

You tell yourself you just need to think about it a little more. Do one more pass. Get a little more clarity before you commit.

It feels responsible.

But what if it's not preparation?

What if it's actually a sneaky way your dysregulation shows upd

In this episode, we're looking at one of the most socially acceptable forms of dysregulation — overpreparing — through the story of a client who had three weeks to put together the pitch of her career, and spent almost all of it burying the version she'd already written.

You'll learn how to tell the difference between actually being unprepared and just chasing certainty, why your nervous system has to be sneaky about how it stalls you, and why the amount of time you think you need has almost nothing to do with the amount of time it would actually take.

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