How to Lower Conflict During Divorce & Co-Parenting with Therapist Jill Kaufman

Divorce conflict is inevitable—but constant fighting doesn't have to be. In this episode, Erica sits down with therapist, divorce coach, mediator, and co-parenting expert Jill Kaufman to share practical strategies for reducing conflict, communicating more effectively, and protecting your children during and after divorce.

If conversations with your ex leave you feeling triggered, frustrated, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you understand why—and give you simple tools to respond differently.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why conflict is normal—but escalation is optional.
• The biggest emotional triggers that keep exes stuck in unhealthy cycles.
• Why your brain literally goes into "fight, flight, or freeze" during conflict.
• How emotional regulation changes every conversation.
• The communication habits that reduce unnecessary arguments.
• Why email is often better than texting during high-conflict co-parenting.
• How to stop taking your ex's behavior personally.
• Practical breathing and visualization techniques to calm your nervous system.
• Why choosing your battles leads to healthier co-parenting.
• The small shifts that can completely change your relationship over time.

🌟 Resources & Links

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Meet This Week's Guest: Jill Kaufman

Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to make the process less overwhelming for others.

Her book, online course and transformational group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace.

Jill also co-founded Divorce Network Pro, a directory of divorce professionals committed to a low-conflict, family-focused approach.

www.divorcecoachjill.com

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