281. Why Closure Is a Lie (And What Actually Helps You Heal) w/ Kelsey Darragh

How do you actually get over a breakup, and why does it feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm chatting with author and mental health advocate Kelsey Darragh to unpack the science of heartbreak, why no-contact is so difficult, and what actually helps you move forward after a breakup (It's not the closure moment you think it is).

From healing after a long-term relationship to knowing when you're ready to date again, this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone struggling to let go of an ex or rebuild trust in love.

In this episode, we cover:

Why the story you tell yourself about your breakup matters
The psychology behind no-contact (and how to stick with it)
The truth about where closure comes from
How to know when you're ready to date again
Heartbreak vs. mental health: when to seek extra support
Whether you should tell a new partner about mistakes you've made in past relationships

At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether you need to disclose past cheating before entering a new relationship.

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