How Insecurity Shows Up After Heartbreak Ep. 189

How Insecurity Shows Up After Heartbreak Ep. 189

We talk so much about the different stages of grief and heartbreak but there is something missing in that conversation.

In this episode, I walk through the phases of healing that don't usually make it into the conversation — from the early daze and the urge to check up on your ex, to the grief that hits after you've stopped checking, to what happens when you start dating again (and why that can go really well, or really badly, depending on the work you've done first).

I also share a bit of my own story — what dating looked like for me right after my divorce versus 18 months later, once I'd actually done the inner work.

None of these stages happen in order, and you won't necessarily go through all of them. But if you recognise yourself in any of this, it means you're on the right track.

In this episode:

  • Why the early "daze" phase isn't a sign something's wrong with you
  • The link between checking your ex's activity and avoiding your grief
  • Why acceptance often brings a deeper wave of grief, not relief
  • What determines whether dating again feels good or triggers you
  • The difference between real safety within yourself and just saying the right things

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