Episode 62: The Mother-in-Law Series: It Starts at the Wedding

Welcome to the first episode of my Mother-in-Law Series. In preparation, I interviewed women in their mid 20s to early 30s about their mothers-in-law, and one of them said something profound: joining a new family is like moving to another country. You don't know the customs or the language. So we (as the mothers-in-law) get to decide, will I be a friendly local or border control?

In this 5 episode series, we're starting with weddings, because that's often where this relationship begins, and where hurt feelings can begin too. I share my own wedding regret: I tried so hard not to burden my mom that she ended up feeling left out, and it took us years to talk about it.

In this episode:

Why there's pain on both sides of wedding planning, and why it's usually a communication gap, not a character flaw
Taking care of your own emotional needs first so you're not easily derailed
A client's mid-wedding turnaround, and the question that changed her day: who do I want to be in this relationship?
You're not the first family anymore. If you want to work on a marriage, work on the one you're in.
Grace from every angle, including for the bride whose brain isn't fully done cooking yet
Every wedding is different: ask, then believe the answers

If a past wedding still stings, stick with me. Episode 5 of this series is for you.

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