Returning to Yourself Again and Again

How many times have you said yes when you meant no? Explained yourself in circles just to justify a boundary? Given so much that there was nothing left for you?

These aren't signs of kindness. They're signs of self-abandonment.

In this episode, I share what self-abandonment actually looks like, not just in the big dramatic moments, but in the small daily ways we leave ourselves behind through people-pleasing, over-giving, and over-explaining.

We explore the concept of stepping outside of yourself to live from fear, survival, and the need to be chosen. And I share the teaching that changed everything for me: the practice isn't to never lose yourself. It's to notice when you have, and choose to come back.

We close with a ceremony for returning to your territory a practice you can use anytime you've drifted from yourself.

This episode is for anyone who's been abandoning themselves to keep other people comfortable. For anyone who needs permission to finally come back home to themselves.

SHOW NOTES

IN THIS EPISODE:

[00:00] Opening: Checking in after the snow week

[01:00] Welcome + Breath: Nothing is being asked of you in this moment

[02:00] Personal Story: The daily ways I abandoned myself People-pleasing, over-giving, over-explaining—and what it cost me

[06:00] Leaving Your Territory When you abandon yourself, you step outside your own land. Understanding self-abandonment through the lens of az mapu (right relationship) and why it's a survival strategy, not a personal failure.

[11:00] Ceremony: Returning to Your Territory A guided practice for noticing where you've left yourself and choosing to come back with love

[16:00] Integration + Closing One small return at a time—the practice of coming back to yourself again and again

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LANGUAGE NOTE: This podcast weaves together English and Spanish naturally, honoring the way we actually speak and remember. You don't need to understand both languages to receive the medicine—your body will know what it needs to hear.

Tags

ancestral wisdom, healing, self-care, spirituality, mental health, Mapuche traditions, Indigenous wisdom, nervous system, embodiment, ceremony, slowness, mindfulness, people pleasing, boundaries, self-abandonment, emotional wellness, personal growth, Spanish, bilingual, self-love