When Your Child Won't Try Anything New: Fear of Failure and the Resilience Gap

If you’re watching your bright, capable child refuse to try anything unless success is guaranteed, this episode is going to feel like oxygen.

I’m breaking down exactly what’s really driving fear of failure in children - the avoidance, the perfectionism, the “I’m not doing it if I’m going to be bad at it” - and I’m giving you five practical things you can do right now to close the resilience gap.

You’ll learn how fear of failure forms, how to spot it, and how to help your child build the confidence to try, struggle, persist and grow… even when things don’t go perfectly.

If you’ve ever worried that your child’s fear of getting it wrong might hold them back, this episode will show you how to turn it around starting today.

So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Fear of failing is NOT this…

05:57 - How to spot a fear of failure

11:23 - 3 mistakes you might be making

16:05 - 5 things you can do right now

18:33 - Normalise failure

21:22 - Separate your child from the performance

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