The Cost of Questioning Everything You Were Taught

Today’s conversation is with Natasha Helfer, a therapist whose work sits right at the intersection of relationships, faith, identity, and personal truth

Marcie sits down with Natasha to talk about what happens when the beliefs that once gave you structure start to conflict with what you know, what you’ve lived, and what you’ve seen in real people’s lives.

This episode looks at the pressure to be “good,” the quiet cost of shame, and the long process of learning to trust yourself again after years of trying to fit inside expectations that never fully made room for you.

Natasha shares what it was like growing up inside Mormon culture, becoming a therapist, working with people whose stories challenged what she had been taught, and eventually choosing honesty even when it came with consequences.

This conversation is about more than faith.

It’s about the stories we inherit, the parts of ourselves we learn to hide, and the moment we finally stop hustling for approval from people who were never going to see us clearly anyway.

Marcie and Natasha talk about:

• Growing up with strict expectations around identity and behavior
• How shame can shape the way people see themselves
• The pressure to be the “good girl”
• What therapy revealed that religion often missed
• Why honesty can feel threatening inside high-control systems
• Losing community, credibility, and belonging
• Rebuilding identity after questioning everything
• The difference between being misunderstood and being wrong
• Learning to stop chasing worthiness

Sometimes the version of someone you were warned about is not the truth.
Sometimes it’s just the version that made other people more comfortable.

What belief or opinion do you hold about someone that you never actually formed on your own?

Thanks for being unladylike with us.
Sit with it, and I’ll see you next Tuesday.

Connect to all things Natasha : https://www.natashahelfer.com

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https://natashahelfer.ticketspice.com/the-open-road

https://www.instagram.com/natashahelfermft?igsh=cXlwcWE2YjlwcTdo

https://www.youtube.com/@sexmormontherapist

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