How to Find Love Again After Heartbreak Ep. 191

Most of us heal backwards.

We get really, really clear on what we don't want. No liars. No cheaters. No emotionally unavailable people. We build our whole recovery around avoiding the pain again — avoiding another toxic partner, avoiding the triggers, avoiding ever feeling this low again.

And look, those instincts make complete sense. But here's the catch: avoidance isn't a destination. It's just running.

In this episode, I'm unpacking why fear-based healing keeps so many people stuck solving the wrong problem for years — sometimes decades — and what it actually looks like to heal towards something instead of just away from your ex.

I share the story of my own dating life before I reconnected with my husband — dating without intention, people-pleasing, staying in situations that weren't right for me, simply because I didn't have a clear picture of what I was building towards. And I walk you through what changed the moment I got specific — down to the smallest detail — about the relationship and the partner I actually wanted.

Because here's the thing nobody tells you: it's not enough to know what you want. You have to become the person ready to receive it. That's where the real healing work happens.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why fear-based healing (avoiding pain) can protect you but will never transform your relationships
• The dating profile pattern that reveals how most people approach healing all wrong
• How to move from a vague relationship vision ("someone supportive who treats me well") to real, specific clarity
• Why the pursuit of your vision matters more than the vision itself
• How self-sabotage shows up when you don't believe you're deserving of the relationship you say you want
• Why your breakup isn't the end of your love story — it's the beginning of understanding yourself deeply enough to build a better one

A line to sit with:

"When you're only focused on avoiding pain, you can spend years solving the wrong problem."

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