Why You Can’t Change People: Relationships, Family & Codependency

In this episode of The Owaken Podcast, Lukis Mac and Hella Omega explore why you cannot change friends, family, partners, or colleagues, and how attempts to fix or micromanage others often create frustration, resistance, and codependent dynamics rooted in fear and survival.They share the teaching “be love, be creative,” emphasizing that you can only create for yourself while allowing others to be their own creator, and introduce the “third probability” as a way to move beyond binary thinking and trust divine timing in others’ growth.Using the stages of change, they discuss discerning support versus spiritual bypassing, the importance of consent. They also cover boundaries, guilt, breathwork and meditation for processing emotions, leading by example, and outgrowing misaligned relationships.This episode is a powerful reminder that loving someone doesn’t mean taking responsibility for their healing, choices, or growth. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is release control, honor their path, set clear boundaries, and bring your energy back to yourself.When you stop trying to change other people, you create more space to focus on what you can change: how you respond, what you choose, what you allow, and how you show up in your own life and relationships.00:00 Why You Can’t Change People01:07 Setting Intentions Together01:44 Be Love Be Creative04:39 Control Fear Codependency06:31 The Third Probability08:44 Stages of Change12:25 Boundaries Support Growth19:25 Guilt After Saying No26:02 Ask What They Need35:22 Stop Coaching Without Consent37:08 Lead By Example42:32 Choose You Don’t Dim46:26 Final Takeaways Wrap UpFollow for more insights and inspiration:Follow Owaken:instagram.com/owakenbreathworkFollow Hella Omega:instagram.com/hellaomegaFollow Lukis Mac:instagram.com/lukismacLearn more about Owaken Breathwork at:Owaken.com