Success Secret: Finding People Who Disagree With You

Success Secret: Finding People Who Disagree With You

Most of us prefer spending time with people who are like us. They think like us, share our values, and make us feel comfortable. But while similarity may be easy, it isn't always what helps us grow.

In this episode of Office Hours, I explain why some of the greatest benefits in life come from building relationships with people who think, believe, and live differently from us. I explore the science behind why diversity of thought can make us wiser and more successful, and share three practical ways to bring more variety of opinions and values into your life.

And if you want to get better at disagreeing better, check out one of my earlier episodes on loving your “enemies.”

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(06:48) Bonding vs. bridging social capital

(14:04) Why we prefer people who are like us

(20:17) Why diversity makes us happier

(21:44) Demographic diversity vs. diversity of ideas

(29:20) How disagreement can improve your thinking

(32:36) Step 1: Talk to strangers

(36:07) Step 2: Become a social scientist

(38:40) Step 3: Celebrate heresy

(43:48) Q&A: How video games affect happiness

(44:56) Q&A: What happens when positivity goes too far

(46:26) Q&A: How to avoid being ruled by pleasure

Referenced:

• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-of-your-life

• Meaning Membership: https://hub.arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-membership

• Arthur’s newsletter: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/newsletter

• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale

• The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks: https://www.thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur

• The Meaning of Your Life Retreats: https://retreats.arthurbrooks.com

• World Day for Cultural Diversity for Dialogue and Development, 21 May: https://www.un.org/en/observances/cultural-diversity-day

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