On Our Own Terms

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather play a round of bucket list confessions. What they'd love to do without judgment (smoking freely, living like a European), and what no amount of money could get them to try again (skydiving, shark diving, Mount Everest, a face tattoo). The conversation opens up into aging and family life, a friend's IVF pregnancy at 52, the chaos of traveling with kids through a heat wave, and a nostalgic detour through a parent's decades old house full of photo albums and VHS tapes they're finally digitizing before disaster takes it. California fire season, Nashville humidity, and very different relationships with summer round things out, before they close with actual bucket list dreams like meeting an octopus, going on safari, and having tea with an elephant.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.