E142: : People-Pleasing, Boundaries & Trauma Bonds: Ask Me Anything Part 2 (CPTSD & Attachment Q&A)

Do you find yourself over-explaining every boundary you set, or wondering what's safe to share with your own kids after growing up with a parent who shared too much with you? This episode is for you.

This is part two of our Ask Me Anything series on CPTSD, built around real listener questions. We talk about setting healthy boundaries with your children after an enmeshed childhood of your own, why people-pleasing is a trauma response rather than a personality trait, and how to work on becoming less dependent on deep connection without falling into dissociation.

In this episode we cover: • What to share and not share with your kids after growing up parentified • A simple filter for deciding what's appropriate to disclose to children at different ages • Why over-explaining boundaries keeps you stuck, and how to stop • Understanding connection dependency as a nervous system survival strategy • Building a regulation toolkit beyond any one relationship • Working with dissociation with curiosity instead of judgment • Saying no at work without the guilt spiral • Why people-pleasing and resentment often show up together • People-pleasing as trauma response, not personality

A reminder that there is no Midweek Reframe for these two weeks while I move my twin sons into college and settle back into life in California. We'll return to our regular Monday and Wednesday rhythm soon after. If this series resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs it.

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This podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.

Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.