Relationship Renovation: The Tools for a Healthier, Stronger Marriage with Therapists and Coaches EJ & Tara

This episode I sit down with therapists and coaches EJ and Tara from the Relationship Renovation podcast and a counseling center in Tucson. They share their own relationship story, including meeting, marrying quickly, and then facing intense challenges after having colicky twins while blending a family with four young children. Sleep deprivation, postpartum struggles, constant conflict, and a loss of intimacy put tremendous strain on their marriage and ultimately became the catalyst for a deeper understanding of relationships. Their experience inspired them to create the research based Relationship Renovation Model and eventually train other therapists in their approach. We talk about emotional safety, attachment, family systems, nervous system regulation, and why you sometimes need to “regulate before you communicate.” They also share their “burnt toast” code word, which allows couples to call for a time out during conflict while creating a clear plan to come back together and continue the conversation. We also discuss the importance of men doing their own emotional work, honesty, empathy, appreciation, and finding specialized couples therapy when you need more support. From major life transitions like empty nesting to the rise of “gray divorce,” we explore how relationships can change throughout the years and what it takes to keep choosing each other. Most importantly, this conversation is about being real, doing the work, and creating a relationship where both people feel safe, heard, and valued. You can learn more about EJ and Tara at relationshiprenovation.com. Listen to the ‘Relationship Renovation’ Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all podcast platforms. Find out more through their site here: https://relationshiprenovation.com/staff/tarah-kerwin-staff/ I’d love to hear from you. If you have questions for me, topics you’d like discussed, or stories you want to share, please reach out through my website at judgingmeghan.com or send me a message on Instagram at @judgingmeghan. Your questions may be featured and answered in an upcoming episode. And if you’re enjoying the podcast, leaving a review really helps support the show and helps more people find these conversations. This podcast is a place for trauma survivors as well as their friends and family. This is a safe environment to be vulnerable but it's also a place for celebration and moving forward. Let's all start to embrace who we are becoming by #mentalhealth #selfcare #self #judgingothers #judgingmeghan #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #survivor #RelationshipRenovation #EJAndTara #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageAdvice #Marriage #HealthyRelationships #CouplesTherapy #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTherapy #EmotionalSafety #AttachmentTheory #NervousSystemRegulation #RegulateBeforeYouCommunicate #Communication #ConflictResolution #RelationshipGoals #Intimacy #EmotionalIntimacy #MarriageAfterKids #ParentingAndMarriage #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfWork #MensMentalHealth #Empathy #HealingRelationships #LongTermRelationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices