S2 | Episode 21 - High Standards Without the Self-Punishment

As high-achieving women and recovering perfectionists, we're really good at pushing ourselves, setting goals, and getting things done.

But what happens when we start learning about self-compassion, rest, nervous system regulation, and softness?

We can start wondering: Am I actually loving myself, or am I just letting myself off the hook?

In this episode, Milli Fox explores the delicate dance between grit and grace — and why we need both.

Because grit without grace can become self-abuse, while grace without grit can become self-indulgence.

Milli breaks down the difference between perfectionism and healthy high standards, how shame can secretly drive achievement, and how to recognize when you're honoring a legitimate need versus avoiding discomfort.

She also explores the two sides of self-compassion — the soft, nurturing voice and the firm, supportive voice — and why both are essential for real self-leadership.

You'll walk away with practical questions to help you discern what you actually need, including:

• What would I choose if shame weren't involved?
• Am I honoring a legitimate need, or avoiding discomfort?
• Is this an isolated incident or a pattern?
• Which decision will increase my self-trust?
• What do I need?

You don't have to bully yourself into becoming the woman you want to be.

And you don't have to abandon your standards to love yourself.

You can be both the soft place to land and the person who calls yourself toward a higher identity.

If you're a recovering perfectionist learning how to pursue growth without abandoning yourself, this episode is for you.

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