How to Get Through the Worst Heartbreak | Rewind

What if the reason your heartbreak isn’t getting better isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough to move on, but because there’s a part of it you still haven’t allowed yourself to feel?

I recently sat down with David Kessler, one of the world’s leading experts on grief, and something he said stopped me in my tracks: “You don’t have a broken mind. You have a broken heart.”

We spend so much time trying to think our way out of heartbreak. We compare our pain to other people’s. We distract ourselves. We turn sadness into anger. We tell ourselves we should be over it by now. But underneath all of that may be grief we’ve never really attended to.

And I know that because, during this conversation, David helped me recognize some of my own.

In this episode, we talk about why heartbreak is a form of grief, what anger may actually be protecting us from, and why avoiding painful emotions can sometimes keep us stuck in them for much longer.

Most importantly, we talk about what it looks like to actually show up for yourself in those moments with more compassion and a kinder internal voice.

You may not be able to change what broke your heart. But you can change how you meet yourself in the pain that follows.

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