What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas

Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now. In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover. If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠ Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try the Dame Pom to explore sensation and actually get out of your head during sex: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe08 Chapters: 0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices