Are Affairs Actually Hot? Cheating, Kinks & Relationship Rules (ft. Carly Pifer)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Carly from Read Aurore to talk about why affairs, cheating, secrecy, and other taboo desires can be so damn hot.

What makes an affair feel so passionate? Why does forbidden sex create such intense desire? And can cheating ever be understandable—or even acceptable—depending on the circumstances? Alexa and Carly get into the complicated psychology of infidelity, including why people cheat, why an affair isn't necessarily about the person being cheated on, the power of secrecy and feeling chosen, and why affairs between two people who are both in relationships can feel more equal than an affair between a partnered person and someone single.

Topic discussed:

• Affairs and infidelity: why affairs happen and why they're sexually appealing
• Cheating and relationship agreements
• Whether you should tell someone their partner is cheating
• The “what you don't know can't hurt you” debate
• The ethics of being the other person in an affair
• Married people cheating with single people
• Why people having affairs often don't leave their primary relationships
• The idea of financial compensation in an affair
• Esther Perel and The State of Affairs
• Cheating in abusive or neglectful relationships
• Cheating when a partner is sick or disabled
• Sexual needs within long-term relationships
• Sexual incompatibility
• Sex workers and whether hiring one constitutes cheating
• Defining what “cheating” means in a relationship
• Porn as a potential form of cheating
• Open relationships and the possibility of cheating within them
• Public sex/public play
• The thrill and risk of getting caught
• Sex in semi-public places
• Privacy, consent, and the ethics of public sexual behavior
• Being walked in on during sex
• Consensual/role-play affairs
• The fantasy of secrecy without actual betrayal
• Hotel rooms and sneaking around
• Fear of getting caught
• Feeling chosen/special through an affair
• Novelty and new relationship energy

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