He Knew Porn Was a Dealbreaker—So Why Did He Marry Me Without Telling Me?
(Episode 353) A betrayed partner discovered after nearly eleven years of marriage that her husband had maintained a secret pornography addiction for more than twenty-five years. What makes the betray...
5 Okt 45min
My Mother & Friends Think I'm Naive & Stupid for Staying with an Addict—Am I?!
(Episode 352) A betrayed partner wrote to us because, although her addict partner has recently become more proactive in recovery, she worries that her mother and friends now see her as weak, naive, o...
28 Sep 42min
He Spent Decades Secretly Lusting—Now He Says Other Women Repulse Him—Should I Believe Him?
(Episode 351) A betrayed partner wrote to us about her husband’s roughly 33-year history of hidden lust addiction and a specific sexual fixation involving women’s bodies that remained secret througho...
22 Sep 44min
"I Choose You" Means Nothing If His Eyes and Actions Keep Choosing Others!
(Episode 350) For a betrayed partner, few things are more painful than hearing, “I choose you,” while continuing to discover that her partner’s eyes, attention, sexuality, and actions are still being...
16 Sep 42min
His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!
(Episode 349) Relapse in pornography or sex addiction absolutely matters, but it is often not the most fundamental threat to a relationship. The deeper crisis is what happens when relapse is followed ...
8 Sep 41min
Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?
(Episode 348) A betrayed partner who has a history of neglect, abuse, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment may find it especially difficult to identify and defend her own wants, needs, and boundaries...
31 Aug 44min
Can my Partner with 2 Decades of Porn Use & Years of Secrecy & Lying Genuinely Recover?
In Episode 347, a betrayed partner who recently ended a three-year relationship asks whether her former partner can genuinely recover after more than two decades of compulsive pornography use, high-ri...
25 Aug 43min
