Navigating Modern Dating with Logan Ury

Navigating Modern Dating with Logan Ury

We’ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place. On this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us. About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google’s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: Why is modern dating so hard? 4:15: Romanticism 6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization 8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators 11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer 14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter? 19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer 26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability 32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator 36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance 41:05: Bids, and turning towards 43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships? 47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner 48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways 51:00: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Have a question for us? Email: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes. Sponsors: Visit Pendulumlife.com and use code BEINGWELL for 20% off your first month of membership. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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