Attachment Styles Can Change and Are a Lens That Filters Relationships
Trauma Rewired11 Des 2023

Attachment Styles Can Change and Are a Lens That Filters Relationships

When a child's needs aren't being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.

In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.

So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.

In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.

Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

  • Attachment style from the NSI perspective

  • How insecure attachment schema affects social development

  • Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns

  • The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags

  • How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed

  • Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style

  • Disorganized attachment and complex trauma

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