Regular Guy Friday Ep. 52: How Shame Blocks Dreams & Why Anger May Open Them

Hey Kweenz, we fooled 'em again and made it through another week. Yes, it's Friday.... YOUR day and THE day for us Regular Guys and Gals, living in this irregular world, to come together. This week we ask what's your 'Life One Liner.' We also ask what's your 'Shadow Word' and what feeds your shadow self?  We discuss how to feed the shadow self in a means to help not hurt with Kev and Kels citing their own life examples. We define what 'charges' are and how they vastly affect our reactions. We discuss how even though we acquire enough coping tools on Better Together to have a hardware store of self help equipment, we still need still time to use and apply them!   We discussed AGAIN how civilians only learn from lessons they pay for and how samurai accept all the FREE lessons they can.  We offer a couple of RGF tips and.... Winnie peed on our on studio table , mid show, no joking. However, we played through sporting our new RGF hoodies aka our 'fake merch' never for once forgetting that we are all Kweenz. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

2 Apr 20211h 46min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/R7a6PKbnrM4 Healer, wellness and life coach Xavier Dagba sat in with the Heal Squad  and shared so many amazing tools, tips and takeaways that we had to split the episode into two parts!  Xavier discusses his journey from Africa to Canada and being outcast from his entire family over his life choices.  Xavier opens up on how much the experience enlightened him to heal and to help heal others.  Xavier covers the widest array of topics such as shame being the ultimate divider, victim mindsets, trauma informed perspectives, the healing power of radical honesty and taking responsibility, the real reason people abuse drugs, how no emotion is negative, how to heal your inner victim, how suppressed emotions control us, how curiosity dismantles judgement, labels defining us and how to spot and cope with a narcissist. Yes, Xavier literally shared all that and more. This is your chance to get on the ground level to follow a great 21st century healer early in his career! Enjoy part 2 of 2! And share with someone who you think could benefit from listening x --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

1 Apr 20211h 41min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/74GcYGsDNvY Healer, wellness and life coach Xavier Dagba sat in with the Heal Squad  and shared so many amazing tools, tips and takeaways that we had to split the episode into two parts!  Xavier discusses his journey from Africa to Canada and being outcast from his entire family over his life choices.  Xavier opens up on how much the experience enlightened him to heal and to help heal others.  Xavier covers the widest array of topics such as shame being the ultimate divider, victim mindsets, trauma informed perspectives, the healing power of radical honesty and taking responsibility, the real reason people abuse drugs, how no emotion is negative, how to heal your inner victim, how suppressed emotions control us, how curiosity dismantles judgement, labels defining us and how to spot and cope with a narcissist. Yes, Xavier literally shared all that and more. This is your chance to get on the ground level to follow a great 21st century healer early in his career! Enjoy part 1!! And share with someone who you think could benefit from listening x --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

31 Mar 20211h 18min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/etXsaRwV8r4 Entrepreneur turned reality star, Nicole Walters, sits in with the Heal Squad for Part Two of her interview. In Part 1, Nicole gave us the blueprint to being an entrepreneur, discovering your why and starting your own business.  In Part 2, Nicole opens up about her seeing three children panhandling on the street and her successful journey to adopt them.  Nicole shares intricate, out of the box parenting tips to raising children while still succeeding at business.  Nicole talks about her parenting practices of 'one on ones' and 'same floor evenings' as well as how bad times are merely parts of our story but do not define us.  Nicole talks about marriages needing to grow side by side and not in a V, not falling in love with the fantasy and how one party is the gas and one is the brakes.  She also shares her quarterly self help sabbaticals and why they are keys to her health and success.  Whether you're a working woman or man whose a parent or even an at home parent or newlywed, this is an episode with incredible takeaway. This is part 2 of the two part show :)  we hope you enjoyed! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

30 Mar 20211h 5min

Youtube: https://youtu.be/PMv1gi4RNPs Entrepreneur turned reality star, Nicole Walters, sits in with the Heal Squad to discuss what it takes to succeed when starting your own business. Nicole opens up on life as a first gen American and woman of color and how she quit her corporate job live on periscope.  She shares how to discover your WHY and how crucial knowing your WHY is, exit strategies from current jobs that aren't fulfilling and how crippling fear is to success.  She relays how money is a tool, what vanity metrics are, the impact of negative beliefs and how no thoughts are original.  For the aspiring entrepreneur, who believes they lack resources, this is a must watch episode. This is part 1 of the two part show :) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

29 Mar 202151min

Hay Kweenz (Regular Guys and Gals), another week is gone and we fooled 'em again!  It's Friday aka YOUR day and Kels and Kev are back with another episode of Regular Guy Friday.  The duo discuss attorney Brittany K. Barnett's philosophy of having your joy meet a need to have your best career. They also break down the amazing work tips offered by Barstool CEO Erika Nardini. In addition, Deepak Chopra reminded us that we play many roles in life and that we are not the roles we play while Qulit App Founder Ashley Sumner told us that we should not allow others to define who we are.  Kels and Kev weigh in on those sentiments and how vastly they affect us. What is your life 'one liner'? You'll find out what that means and how It could guide you in all your career and life decisions.  Lastly, we are left with the hope for mass vaccinations and for 'Tour of 1000 Kweenz' to happen! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

26 Mar 20211h 21min

Youtube: https://youtu.be/7I6HlWzID-U Attorney Brittney K. Barnett sat in with the HealSquad to discuss her incredible journey from humble East Texas roots to helping to free 25 non violent offenders from lifelong incarceration.  Brittney describes the great advice she received from her father and grandfather as well as how her nurse mother became an addict and was later incarcerated.  Brittany shares her journey in helping to free the first of many serving lifelong sentences. That journey began with her, as a student and a stranger, doing a google search and writing a handwritten letter saying 'one day I will get you out of prison..."    Brittney educates us on the amount of wrongful convictions and what we can do to help as well as how to manifest your dreams and how to discover YOUR best career and life path. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

25 Mar 20211h 6min

Youtube: https://youtu.be/EkbrtST0-g8 Barstool Sports CEO Erika Nardini sat in with the Heal Squad to share valuable tips on how to interview (even by zoom) as well as red flags to avoid, what to look for in a future employer, the difference between workplace toxicity and development, what makes a toxic work environment, how to spot toxic bosses and coworkers  and the habits of effective employees fast tracking to success. Erika also covers tips to help nip anxiety, steps to take when asking for a raise and exactly whom to seek advice from.  Whether you're moving on to your next job or venturing out to your first one, this is a vital interview from the female that runs one of the largest platforms in the world. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

24 Mar 20211h 20min