106. Overcoming trauma and complex PTSD ft. Amy B Chesler

Father wounds arise from a disorganised or complicated relationship with our father figure - either due to them being physically or emotionally absent, harsh and critical, unfeeling or abusive and can result in a number of dysfunctional behaviours and emotional patterns as we grow older. In this episode we are breaking down the psychology of father wounds and discussing:  The origins of father wounds and the role of generational trauma Mother wounds versus father wounds  Attachment theory and father archetypes  Father hunger and father replacements  Is forgiveness the only answer?  The power of inner child healing  All of that and more, listen now!  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

26 Mar 202440min

In this episode we are joined by clinical psychologist and author of 'The Defining Decade' to talk about all the frustrations, stressors, misconceptions and hard moments of our 20s and why it's only going to get BETTER from here. We talk about:  Shifting from a 'what if' to a 'what is' or 'what else' mindset Why we fear uncertainity  Milestone anxiety  Sliding versus deciding  Catastrophic thinking  Insecure and anxious attachment styles vs. insecure and anxious moments And so much more  Listen now to hear all of Dr Meg's amazing advice and hear a bit about her new book, coming out next month.    Link to The Defining Decade: https://www.amazon.com.au/Defining-Decade-Meg-Jay/dp/0446561754  Pre-order Meg's new book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Twentysomething-Treatment/Meg-Jay/9781668012291  Follow Jemma here: @jemmasbeg  Follow the podcast here: @thatpsychologypodcast     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Mar 202448min

Sometimes all we want to do is a have a big, old fashioned sob and when we can't it leads us feeling emotionally pent up, defective and frustrated. There's an explanation for why we go through periods where we are unable to cry. In today's episode we discuss:  The evolutionary function of crying Crying as an attachment behaviour  The difference between basal, reflex and emotional tears  The 4 major reasons we struggle with crying  How to heal your connection with your emotions  How we process emotions through the body, and more. Listen now when you're in need of an emotional catharsis or could really do with a few tears.  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Mar 202438min

Self discipline is the key ingredient to unlocking everything you want in life. But despite that many of us treat it like its optional and believe the narrative that self discipline requires perfection, requires sacrifice and is too hard. Actually, self discipline is anything but, it is actually the road of least resistance. In this episode we break down 5 tips for building self discipline in any area of life:  Understanding your motivation Leveraging social accountability and desirability bias  The power of micro habits  Hacking our dopamine systems through instant versus delayed gratification Shifting from learned helplessness to learned industriousness  All of that and more! Listen now!   Follow the podcast: @thatpsychologypodcast Follow Jemma: @jemmasbegSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

15 Mar 202435min

Love is scary. There are so many opportunities to be hurt, to be let down, to have thing turn out in a way we never wanted them to. But it's also one of the best things in live and brings incredible joy and fulfilment. Why is it that some of us avoid the experience all together. In today's episode we are going to discuss the fear of intimacy in all its forms. We will discuss:  Signs you have a fear of intimacy (serial dating, situationships, emotional avoidance) Childhood and early relationship wounds The fear of engulfment and overbearing parents  How insecurity drives protectiveness  Our misconceptions about love  4 steps to healing your fear of intimacy We also discuss some of the ways people in their 20s might not realise they have a fear of intimacy and why our society sometimes celebrates the things that keep us in a state of avoidance. All of that and more, listen now!    Follow the podcast: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow Jemma: @jemmasbeg     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Mar 202442min

This International Women's Day as part of iHeart's Women Take the Mic Initiative, I'm bringing on my Mum for a vulnerable chat about our relationship as mother and daughter, what she's learned from being a mother, what she would do differently, life lessons and her success in a male dominated field. We discuss everything from motherhood, child-parent dynamics, feminism and career advice. It's a beautiful conversation, one that I'll hold dearly for a long time and we hope you enjoy, listen now!  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

8 Mar 202453min

This week we are discussing the ups and downs of living alone in your 20s: from the freedom and independence, to the loneliness and social isolation, financial anxiety and stress, but the authenticity and emotional maturity that comes with it. We talk about:  Why being alone doesn't make you lonely Sliders versus deciders - why you should wait before moving in with a partner Cognitive distortions and overspending  Lifestyle creep  Habits for building social connection and community How to successfully live alone  All that and more, listen now!    Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow The Psychology of your 20s on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Mar 202444min

Feeling jealous over our partners past can feel highly irrational, but its still a feeling many of us have and contributes to a lot of obsessive and unhealthy behaviours like stalking their exes, asking intrusive questions, starting arguments in hopes of getting the reassurance we need. In today's episode, we talk about the psychology of retroactive jealousy, including its origins and how to move past your jealous feelings. We will talk about:  How past relationships and trauma create jealousy Overthinking and anxiety  Rejection sensitivity  Self sabotage  Interrupting mental compulsions  Listen now!  Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  Follow The Psychology of your 20s on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Mar 202440min