ManTalks Podcast23 Okt 2023

Figs O'Sullivan - On Diagnosing Your Partner, Blame Games, And Emotional Pursuers

Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathy

Delighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan to content with once again. It's been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in.

(00:00:00) - As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships?

(00:06:50) - Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well?

(00:12:57) - Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent

(00:18:24) - What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has?

(00:22:49) - Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men?

(00:30:25) - Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about?

(00:30:25) - The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic

(00:41:25) - What are some ways out of that dynamic?

(00:46:17) - What gets in the way of empathy, and how can that be overcome?

(00:50:37) - What does good couples therapy entail, and how do you know it’s working?

(00:55:25) - It’s important to pay attention to the ease of things as well as hard stuff

Connect with Figs

-Website: https://empathi.com/

-Podcast: Come Here To Me: https://get.empathi.com/comehere

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw

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