69: The Outward Mindset - Heather Adams, The Arbinger Institute

The anti-hustle guide to finding a balance that maximises happiness through intention and wisdom. Optimising every second of your calendar to the nth degree isn't a recipe for dreamlike productivity, it's a collision course for anxiety-riddled burnout. In our era of ever more time demands what are we to do? Oliver Burkman in his book 4,000 week presents a guide to living as a human being in a messy and demanding environment that allows you to prioritise what's essential in a calm and rational manner. The key is to not forget what else is important in a life well lived besides productive output. We can't be everywhere and do everything but anything we do commit to takes from the things we don't. Growing old and missing out on a bunch of important non-urgent life goals is not where you want to end up. This episode discusses the 7 best lessons of wisdom from Oliver Burkmen's book along with some advice from Psychology and Sam's own experiences. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Impact of the Efficiency Mindset on Our Lives 01:26 Questioning the Hustler Mentality 02:55 #1 - Tracing the Roots 04:38 #2 - Navigating Existential Overwhelm 06:28 #3 - The Efficiency Trap 07:50 #4 - Embracing procrastination 10:06 #5 - Elevating Enjoyment 14:36 #7 - Enriching your remaining weeks 16:17 Live Life With 4,000 Weeks - embrace Time Management for Mortals Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1 Okt 202419min

Identify scarcity mindsets and unpack your relationship with money, success and purpose. We revisit a discussion with Kyle Livingston that explores how we find meaning in our lives and where the biggest sources of stress and anxiety come from for many. Money and success. A story-powered episode where we travel through Kyle's journey as an abandoned orphan and living with anxiety to being able to calm himself from the constant stress and consistently create opportunities. Top lessons: How to make a contract with fear Redefining your relationship with money How to spot luck Overcoming failures in life We examine a lot of classic principles for dealing with scarcity mindset issues and building resilience and a growth mindset attitude towards failure. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 Related Episodes 14 Habits Keeping You Poor: How to stop sabotaging your bank account - April 2023 - Spotify - Apple Neuroscience of Growth Mindset: Learning and behaviour change - 30th July 2024 - Spotify - Apple How to Spend Money to Buy Happiness: What actually works - 6th Sept 2024 - Spotify - Apple Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Scarcity is built into us 02:44 Kyle's life story as an orphan 06:37 What motivated Kyle to be successful 08:53 Self-development Book - How to win friends and influence people 09:40 Did Kyle get a Lambo and what changed after hitting 10k 12:09 What made Kyle make a lot more money - Money as fuel for blessings 15:00 Did Kyle have a burnout moment after chasing money - Anxiety and panic attack 17:45 Anxiety over money 18:49 How did Kyle overcome his anxiety - coaching, self-help books, seminars 20:11 Travelling as a form of therapy and taking a bus across Spain 20:31 Minds are funny things 21:30 Making a contract with yourself anytime fear creeps back in 23:55 Spotting luck coming towards you 24:49 Where is Kyle right now in terms of business and stuff - lost everything twice in a span of 3 years and helping online businesses 27:31 Kyle's approach to mentoring people 28:55 Kyle helping out online businesses that has experienced failure, understands marketing and teach them how to fish 30:44 Biology and business can go together 31:23 From starting businesses to helping businesses 36:12 Relationships and working on making yourself better 38:43 Giving out advice 40:19 Were there friends that were helpful 41:45 Kindest thing 42:27 Earliest memories 43:33 Advice you'd give yourself 10 years ago Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

27 Sep 202450min

Stop Chasing the Self-Improvement Treadmill - Learn to focus on making the world a better place. We are drowning in self-improvement content to make us wealthier, wiser, more productive sexier versions of ourselves. Yet at the same time, it seems like humanity is going backwards. What gives? In the modern-day obsession with ourselves, we are missing out on the bigger picture of how to lead an impactful life that genuinely touches those around us. Yet if we want to be the most impactful version of ourselves that requires us to improve those around us. This episode zooms into lessons from our cell biology and how we are wired to learn and connect and zooms out to how human organisations and societies operate. By building a deeper understanding of reality through looking at the micro and macro, we find the fundamental lessons we need. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 Related Episodes Navigating the River of Time: How to decide what matters - 23rd July 2024 How To Build Free Will and Self-control: Determine your outcomes in life - 06th Aug 2024 Why Most Self-Help Advice Sucks: What actually works - 26th Mar 2024 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Applying the Inversion Principle to our Quest for Self-Improvement 01:23 Zooming In and Out of Nature 02:18 From Individual Cells to the entirety of humanity 04:37 The Evolution of Human Society, Trade and Teamwork 05:05 Technological Advancements The Power of Modern Convenience 07:05 Wielding magic alone 08:33 Lessons from Toddlers 11:02 The Messiness of Organizations 14:10 The Illusion of Master Planners 16:01 The Simplicity of Being Nice 17:27 The Kindness in Sales 18:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

24 Sep 202421min

Conscious experience is a result of our awareness, but how do we take back our free will from external drivers? This episode explores the links between the conscious experience and what Free will really is. Building on that we explore how the body deals with pain and negative emotions and how we can learn to carve free will, awareness and control into our day-to-day lives. Dr Stephen Porges is the father of Polyvagal Theory and how the body perceives threat and safety. His lessons are crucial for how humans connect, learn and exist and build the fundamental concepts to understand emotional intelligence. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 Related Episodes The Psychology of Fear, Security and Emotional intelligence: Neuroscience lessons from Polyvagal theory - 13th Aug 2024 How To Build Free Will and Self-control: Determine your outcomes in life - 06th Aug 2024 The secrets behind curiosity without worry: How to build inner peace with Dr Stephen Porges - 16th Aug 2024 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Consciousness, Free Will, Pain and responses 03:40 Viktor Frankl and Polyvagal Theory - The Space Between Stimulus and Response 04:34 Interoception and Neuroception 05:02 Managing Physiological Responses &Free Will in Relationships 06:07 Polyvagal Interpretation of Free Will and the Nervous System 08:09 Meditation, Pain Management, Chronic Pain and Emotional Regulation 09:45 Understanding Negative Emotions 11:18 Strategies for Self-Regulation 13:19 Trauma and Psychosomatic Problems 14:52 Listener's Question on Self-Regulation & Burnout in Healthcare 17:56 Importance of Clinician's Physiological State 19:51 Final remarks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

20 Sep 202423min

Let's talk about Power Moves - Lethal Combinations of traits that can unlock your full potential Most of us have strengths and with each strength is a corresponding weakness. Says who? History has shown time and time again that embodying seemingly contradictory traits can result in outsized success. We look at the weaknesses we accept and how to overcome the fixed mindset, break out of our natural blockers, and become a spikey, unbalanced individual with additive strengths. Balancing lessons from history and psychology we go on a tour of the most common and powerful opposing strengths that can be turned into an unstoppable combination when harnessed correctly. We also explore: How to identify your ideal strength combination Tools to work on weaknesses from different angles How neurodiversity and personality disorders can be harnessed as strengths Embracing instead of fighting your weaknesses Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 🔗 🐷 PorkBun: .PRO domain for $1 - code BeAPro24 - PorkBun.com/GrowthMindset24 Related Episodes 7 Wierd Life-Changing Skills: That will make you happier - 19th July 2024 How To Build Free Will and Self-control: Determine your outcomes in life - 06th Aug 2024 The Neuroscience of a Growth Mindset: Learning and behaviour change - 30th July 2024 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Personality Labels and the Complexity of Human Traits 01:57 Exploring the Paradox of Powerful opposites 03:42 George Washington's Greatest Traits - Uncommon honesty and Undoubtable deception 06:42 The Danger of Cognitive Simplicity 09:36 #1 Balancing Knowledge and Open-Mindedness: Rethinking assumptions 11:20 #2 Empathy and Assertiveness: Compassionate Leadership 12:37 #3 Time Sensitivity: Optimize vs. Immerse 14:22 #4 Work Hard, Play Hard - Sustainable output 15:48 #5 Patience and Urgency - Balanced tempo 18:09 #6 Short-Term Actions vs. Long-Term Vision - Paradox of genius 20:14 #7 Creativity and Analytical Thinking - Innovation Engine 21:30 #8 High Belief and Highly Critical - Product Intelligence 23:00 #9 Stubbornness and Flexibility - Thriving in uncertainty 25:25 #10 Self-Confidence and Humility - Grounded Ambition 26:26 #11 Humour and Seriousness - Ideal partner 28:18 Framework to identify strengths and weakness 31:20 Mindmapping Weakness in ADHD 34:40 - Complementing Our Natural Appearance with Opposing Traits 35:48 Personality Disorders and Nuerodiversity - Turning weaknesses into strengths: BPD, NPD, ADHD 38:19 Conclusion: Embrace the Paradoxes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

17 Sep 202443min

A masterclass on our hidden mindsets and diagnosing the real problems behind our internal blockers. Your mind lies to you about what you can and can't do and creates infinitely logical reasons to hide your real fears. To overcome the real blockers in achieving our goals, we need to spend less time diagnosing external problems and more time understanding what's happening inside us. Humans are ultimately driven by underlying fear and desire, coming up with reasons that ignore this is hiding the truth. We explore the 4 core fears behind our everyday decisions and actions so we can unburden ourselves from limitations: Fear of Failure - Operating in survival mode Fear of Uncertainty - The silent killer of dreams Fear of Embarrassment - Appearance problems Fear of Success - The unexpected fear Webster explores how these fears are deeply entrenched in a fixed mindset, making them appear more rational than they are. Learn practical strategies to convert these fears into opportunities for growth, transform your mindset, and take bold steps toward your true potential. In summary, a powerful and practical guide to overcoming the psychological barriers that hold you back. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 🔗 🐷 PorkBun: .PRO domain for $1 - code BeAPro24 - PorkBun.com/GrowthMindset24 Related Episodes The Neuroscience of Fear: Understanding anxiety, trauma & tools to overcome fears - 10th Sept 2024 How To Build Free Will and Self-control: Determine your outcomes in life - 06th Aug 2024 How To Stop Catastrophizing: Building Inner-peace with Stephen Porges - 01st Mar 2024 10 Powerful Stoic Questions: The guide to a full life - 06th Feb 2024 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Hitting Invisible Walls 02:11 The Illusion of Living Without Fear 05:39 The Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset and Fear 06:56 #1 Fear of Failure (Survival mode) 08:46 Reframing Failure - Learning opportunities, incremental goals and feedback 11:06 Standup Comedy as Exposure Therapy 12:36 #2 Fear of Uncertainty (The silent killer of dreams) 15:22 Overcoming Fear of Uncertainty 17:19 #3 The Fear of Embarrassment and Ridicule (Appearance problems) 19:14 Accepting embarrassment as a cost of entry 23:44 #4 Fear of Success (The unexpected fear) 26:14 Defining and Preparing for Success 30:22 Conclusion: Embracing Fear for Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Sep 202435min

Anxiety is built into all our brains, examining the role of trauma in building fear responses helps us understand how to combat fear. We can also learn how trauma manifests in General Anxiety Disorder, Borderline (BPD), Narcissism (NPD) and ADHD. By studying the neuroscience of how fear and anxiety work in the brain we understand how life events and trauma shape our perceptions. To overcome the different fears we can learn from strategies required for individuals with specific disorders relating to fear to reduce their emotional reactions. Fear is controlled by 4 main areas in the brain, the Amygdala, the hippocampus, the Pre-Frontal Cortex and the Hypothalamus. They can keep us healthy, alive, and functioning normally. But different life events can cause them to become impaired or over-active in subtle ways causing much greater levels of fear and irrational behaviours. The episode explores how fears hold us back and the specific chemistry and biology to creates it and techniques we can learn to rebalance our brain towards more rational thinking and level responses. Tune in to learn how understanding fear can help you master your own mind and improve your life. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 🔗 🐷 PorkBun: .PRO domain for $1 - code BeAPro24 - PorkBun.com/GrowthMindset24 Recommended Books Our Polyvagal World - Stephen & Seth Porges The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway - Susan Jeffers Related Episodes The Secrets of Curiosity without Worry: Building Inner-peace with Stephen Porges - 16th Aug 2024 The Psychology of Fear, Security & Emotional Intelligence: The Nueroscience of Polyvagal Theory - 13th Aug 2024 Doing the Difficult Thing: Dr Niall McCann - Director National Park Rescue - 13th June 2019 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 Exploring the Neuroscience of Fear 03:14 The Brain's Fear Circuitry 06:16 The Role of Neuroception 09:43 The Four Core Fears 12:21 Trauma and Its Impact on Fear 19:41 Understanding General Anxiety Disorder 22:13 Techniques for Managing Anxiety and Fear 25:51 Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder 27:13 The Neuroscience Behind BPD 31:20 Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder 33:10 Lessons on Ego for All of Us 36:44 ADHD and the Struggle to Mange Fear and Focus 39:19 Strategies for Harnessing ADHD &Personal Experiences 45:12 Concluding Thoughts on Fear Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10 Sep 202451min

Learn the economics of satisfaction, according to psychology. Our earliest lessons in life include that money can't buy happiness. But is that completely correct? We explore tactics to change your spending that can boost your mood on both a daily level and additionally build a longer-term sense of content satisfaction. Learning how to escape the nudges of advertising and society's expectations of spending and instead live in line with your values and priorities. Everyone has different needs and is operating on different levels. These rules help you learn to experiment to find what will work for you and build your own answers to important questions that can improve the quality of your life. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Sponsors: 🥙 😋 Factor: 50% off - code GROWTHMINDSET50 - FactorMeals.com/GrowthMindset50 🔗 🐷 PorkBun: .PRO domain for $1 - code BeAPro24 - PorkBun.com/GrowthMindset24 Recommended Resources Upside of Irrationality - Daniel Ariely Psychology of Money - Morgan Housel National Park Rescue - Wildlife preservation charity Related Episodes Money Traps: Cognitive Biases affecting your finances - 19th May 2024 14 Habits Keeping You Poor: How the brain learns - 40th April 2023 Doing the Difficult Thing: Dr Niall McCann - Director National Park Rescue - 13th June 2019 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com Chapters: 00:00 The Debate: Can Money Buy Happiness? 02:19 Exploring the Psychology of Money and Happiness 04:25 #1: Spend on Experiences, Not Things 08:09 #2: Invest in Relationships 10:15 #3: Prioritize Health 12:30 #4: Buy Time to Reduce Stress 15:41 # 5: Make Smaller, Frequent Purchases 18:27 #6 Don't Sweat the Small Stuff 21:35 #7 Delaying Gratification to Build Anticipation 24:06 #8 Investing in Yourself 25:53 #9 Spending on Enabling Activities 27:30 #10 Give Back to Others & Charity 29:49 #Bonus - Exploring Novel & Weird Spending Habits 33:43 Note - The Influence of Personal History and Social Dynamics 35:19 Conclusion - Aligning Spending with Values Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Sep 202439min