129: The outside mindset - Verla Fortier - Author

What is the source of anger and how do we learn from everything in life? This episode explores how to investigate our assumptions and find a deeper understanding of the world around us. We use psychology to investigate our curiosities and find unexpected and useful lessons for life whilst having fun. Cool moments coming up: The difference between Intrinsic load, Extrinsic Load and Germane Load How Expectation violation is the worst thing ever Where does anger come from? Which is Sam's favourite nation on the planet Further reading: What's Our Problem - Tim Urban - UK Book - US Book Tiny Habits - BJ Fogg - UK Book - US Book Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely- UK Book - US Book Sponsors: Cozy Earth: Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer as you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com SleepyClub: Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk ShortForm: Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Influence the Show Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters: 00:00 Curious Investigation and Sam's Newsletter Mishap 03:37 Understanding Cognitive Load Theory 03:48 Intrinsic and Extrinsic Load Explained 05:00 Germane Load and Tangents 07:41 Applying Cognitive Load Theory to Newsletters 09:27 Expectation Violation and Perceived Control 11:56 Reactance Theory and Personal Freedom 14:23 Overwhelm and Habits 15:08 Embracing Curiosity over Anger 19:10 Innovative Ideas for Blog Consumption 21:25 Book Recommendations and Book Club 22:48 Final Thoughts and Recommendations Topics: applying psychology to solve everyday problems understanding cognitive load theory in daily life strategies to manage intrinsic and germane load how expectation violation affects decision-making and anger exploring reactance theory in personal relationships practical tips for managing anger effectively building sustainable habits using psychological principles cultivating curiosity for personal growth implementing a growth mindset in daily activities using psychology to enhance problem-solving skills cognitive strategies to reduce daily stress learning to handle emotional reactions with psychology techniques for fostering curiosity and innovation the role of cognitive load in learning new skills overcoming barriers to personal development with psychology psychological approaches to habit formation mastering emotional self-regulation through psychology insights into reactance theory and personal freedom practical psychology to improve mental resilience transforming mindset for better life outcomes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Jun 202426min

The secret to unparalleled success is not enduring endless misery. In fact, it's the opposite. We learn how to amplify our abilities in any domain by making the process more enjoyable and actionable. The brain is like a muscle analogy is a harmful myth. It is based on some half-truths that on the surface make sense. Learn: Why we fail at doing hard things The differences between brain and muscle training How to train the brain for success The biggest misunderstanding of Stoicism. Further reading: Feel Good Productivity - Ali Abdaal - UK Book - US Book Slow Productivity - Cal Newport - UK Book - US Book The Art of Learning - Josh Waitzkin- UK Book - US Book Sponsors: Cozy Earth: Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer as you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com SleepyClub: Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk ShortForm: Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Journal Prompts Free prompts - Make Hard Things Fun Influence the Show Meet Sam - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: The Value of Time 01:00 Challenging Conventional Wisdom 01:55 The Mind vs. Muscle Debate 02:54 Memory and Creativity 04:22 Analogies and Insights 07:21 Differences Between Brain and Muscle 11:06 The Role of Stress and Play 14:53 Finding Enjoyment in Learning 15:30How to enjoy learning an instrument 19:24 Why Alexander the Great Achieved so Much 23:42 The Big Conclusion 28:33 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement Topics: training the brain vs muscle growth how to effectively train your brain differences between brain and muscle training stress effects on brain vs muscle career change for personal enjoyment and growth entertaining the mind for enhanced learning cognitive training vs physical exercise best practices for cognitive enhancement learning an instrument brain training The secret to Alexander the Great's success how stress impacts brain functionality improving brain function without stress using entertainment to boost brain power practical tips for brain training understanding brain health and physical fitness innovative methods to train the brain cognitive development through entertainment effective brain workouts for professionals Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

21 Jun 202432min

Cognitive biases distort reality with good and bad results (like really bad). Today is a fun experiment where we combine Psychology and History. We learn about the 7 perception-based illusions of Cognitive Biases whilst applying them to the life of Napoleon. We understand how biases can be useful for us and lead us to greatness and how they can also be our downfall. Cognitive biases covered: Selective Perception - Why we see things how we want to see them Exposure Effect - How repetition makes us likes stuff Baader-Meinhof Effect - Why we notice our car everywhere after we buy it Placebo Effect - How to make your leg being cut off less awful Illusion of Control - Why you can't roll dice Clustering Illusion - How we spot patterns that don't exist Contrast Effect - Why comparison makes things awful but also wonderful Further reading: Napoleon The Great - Andrew Roberts - UK Book - US Book Thinking Fast and Slow - Daniel Kahneman - UK Book - US Book Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely - UK Book - US Book Further Listening Enjoyed this episode? Check out the rest of the Cognitive Ciases series: Ego Blindspots: 9 Cognitive Biases to Avoid - [May 7th] Human Nature vs. Money: Battling Irrationality & Thinking Traps [May 19th] Confirmation Bias and the 7 Sins of Lazy Thinking - [June 4th] [YOU ARE HERE] - Reality Distortion Cognitive Rigidity and How Einstein Overcame the 5 Biases that Keep Us Stuck - [June 19th] Thinking Fast and Slow: How to Make Better Decisions - [July 12th] Sponsors: Cozy Earth: Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer as you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com SleepyClub: Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk ShortForm: Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters: 00:00 Princeton Vs. Dartmouth 01:34 Selective Perception in Politics 02:26 Reality Distortion Fields 04:13 Napoleon's Rise and Fall 05:57 The Exposure Effect 09:06 The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon 11:24 The Placebo Effect 15:53 The Illusion of Control 18:59 Napoleon's Russian Campaign 21:25 The Clustering Illusion 25:29 The Contrast Effect 30:00 Reflections on Cognitive Biases 33:11 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action Topics: overcoming selective perception for personal growth using the mere exposure effect to build positive habits Baader-Meinhof phenomenon and mindfulness practices applying the placebo effect to boost self-confidence illusion of control and decision making strategies clustering illusion impact on personal finance contrast effect in daily life and productivity psychology of mindset and cognitive biases cognitive biases and personal development improving decision making through understanding cognitive biases Napoleon cognitive biases analysis how Napoleon's decisions were influenced by biases cognitive biases in historical figures psychological analysis of Napoleon Bonaparte cognitive biases experiments and examples Napoleon Bonaparte decision making impact of cognitive biases on leadership psychological insights into Napoleon's strategies contrast effect in Napoleon's campaigns illusion of control in historical decisions mere exposure effect examples in history Baader-Meinhof phenomenon historical examples selective perception in Napoleon's battles clustering illusion and military strategy placebo effect in leadership confidence Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

18 Jun 202438min

How to break down complexity and build true understanding. Richard Feynman is a Nobel Prize-winning Physicist and is widely considered one of the greatest teachers ever. He invented the razor "If someone uses a lot of complexity and Jargon to explain something, they probably don’t understand it." His 4-step technique uncovers the gaps lurking in our knowledge so we can truly master something. Downloadable example Feynman Technique doc - https://samwebster.notion.site/Feynman-Technique-Template-1d5b0569877f80ca8faffb3028fc7bdd Further Reading Biography: Surely You're Joking Mr Feynman - UK Book - US Book 6 Easy Pieces: Feynman's Physics Essentials - UK Book - US Book Feynman's Lectures: Box set - UK Series - US Series Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: The Power of Emotions in Learning 00:55 The Learning Pyramid: Retention Rates 01:21 Effective Learning Methods 02:05 The Role of Emotions in Teaching 03:51 Introduction to Richard Feynman 04:06 Feynman's Contributions to Physics 05:18 Feynman's Teaching Technique 06:35 Step 1: Go Wide and Then Deep 07:26 Step 2: Explain Like You're Teaching a 5-Year-Old 09:02 Step 3: Feedback, Assessment, and Restudying 10:54 Step 4: Organize, Convey, and Review 14:15 Conclusion: The Importance of Simplicity Topics Richard Feynman's teaching techniques explained Understanding the learning pyramid and memory retention How to master anything with the Feynman technique Richard Feynman's coolest experiments and insights Learning pyramid and retention rates comparison Feynman's method for effective learning and teaching Richard Feynman’s approach to mastering subjects Discussion and teaching methods in the learning pyramid Audio-visual learning vs reading retention rates Richard Feynman’s impact on education and teaching Effective study techniques inspired by Richard Feynman Mastering complex subjects with the Feynman method Richard Feynman’s contributions to science education Learning retention: discussion vs teaching methods Feynman’s experiments and their educational value Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Jun 202420min

Uncover the reasons behind your behaviour patterns and what to do about it. Attachment is a core part of human instinct that is formed incredibly early yet impacts our whole life. Jessica Baum is a Licensed Mental Health Counsellor, Relationship Expert and author. Expect to learn: Why anxious attachment styles develop How to alter an attachment style How to communicate effectively with each attachment style What happens in couple therapy Sponsor - Cozy Earth Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer as you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com Sponsor - SleepyClub Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk Sponsor - ShortForm Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Jessica Baum Insta - @JessicaBaumLMHC Website and coaching - BeSelfFull.com Anxiously Attached - UK Book - US Book Other Reading Attached - Amir Levine - UK Book - US Book Body Keeps the Score - UK Book - US Book Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Attachment styles 01:41 Attachment Styles and Growth Mindset 01:53 The Origins of Attachment Theory 05:37 Metacognition in Development 08:12 Couples Therapy for Attachment Issues 12:09 Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation 15:19 Dependency vs Interdependency 19:07 Catastrophizing and Attachment Styles 21:40 Mirror Neurons and Attunement 25:32 Cultural Impacts on Attachment 27:24 Attachment as an Evolutionary Feature 31:22 Signs You Need to Explore Attachment 32:51 Steelmanning Attachment Theory 35:13 Gender Differences in Attachment 37:22 Narcissism and Attachment Wounds 39:09 ADHD vs Disorganized Attachment 42:46 The Imago Dialogue 45:16 Expectations in Attachment Therapy 46:25 Areas for Future Attachment Research 47:49 Boundaries and Implicit Memory 49:28 Neuroception and Building Awareness 51:42 Closing Thoughts and Resources 52:31 Earliest Memories 53:02 Kindest Thing 55:05 Wrap up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

14 Jun 20241h 1min

Cure your blockers and make meaningful progress on everything you want to do. We don't have a problem with ideas. We have a problem with strategy. We unpack how professionals think and plan their work in any domain so you can become strategic. Stop the ideas from passing you by and learn how to make better decisions that lead to concrete action. Sponsor - Cozy Earth Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer the more you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com Sponsor - SleepyClub Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking 00:00 Do not mix Decisions and Actions 00:56 Social Media Strategy: Planning Ahead 02:52 Professional Athletes: The Power of Planning 04:49 Building Consistent Habits: Start Small, Think Big 06:20 Discipline is Destiny Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12 Jun 202410min

Who are you VS. Who do you want to be? It could also be stated - What do you want to do now VS. What do you want to have done? In both cases, the reality of how we act in the present moment can often be very different than all the desires of who we want to be and what we want to achieve in the future. In this episode, we break down the Psychology of the Behaviour model that drives our actions. We learn how to close the gap between our desires and our actions to achieve our own version of success and happiness. Sponsor - Cozy Earth Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer the more you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com Sponsor - SleepyClub Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk Sponsor - ShortForm Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Notes Journal prompts - Free notes Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters 00:00 The Two Competing Desire 02:00 Desires as Contracts for Unhappiness 04:12 The Formula for Action 04:48 Finding the Right Level of Challenge 07:05 Discovering Your Path 09:23 Redefining Sacrifice 11:18 Making Tasks Easier 13:12 Simplifying and Prioritizing 14:58 Money vs Happiness Balance 16:29 Aligning Desires with Actions 18:02 Send Off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Jun 202420min

Mindsets can be described as life-changing, miracle-cure thought processes with vague and fluffy brilliance. In reality, Mindsets have a lot of answers to very powerful core elements of our behaviours. They are extremely important to understand. It's also important to not misuse them. Let's dig into: What exactly is and isn't a Mindset. Common Mindset myths What to look out for as bad science and lies We also dig into some of the most popular mindset pairs that are regularly mis-understood and mis-used: Fixed vs Growth mindset Scarcity vs Abundance Mindset Closed vs Open Mindset Sponsor - Cozy Earth Luxury Bamboo sheets and Loungeware that become softer the more you use them. 35% off code 'GROWTH' - CozyEarth.com Sponsor - SleepyClub Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters 00:00 Do you really understand mindset? 01:16 Understanding Mindset: Core Concepts 02:08 The Psychology Behind Mindset 03:49 Fixed vs. Growth Mindset 04:44 The Evolution and Misuse of Mindset 12:37 Open vs. Closed Mindset 17:36 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset 20:29 Applying Mindset Correctly 23:05 Future Content Plans and Listener Engagement 27:27 Conclusion: Embracing Change and Staying Positive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

7 Jun 202430min