Shame, Addiction, and How To Focus On Who You Are Becoming
We evolved shame as a gift. A signal that whispers when we've drifted from who we might become. What if the discomfort you feel isn't the problem, but the compass? This episode explores a surprising truth: the hardest patterns to change aren't the ones destroying us, but the ones keeping us comfortably mediocre. Yet they hold us back and sometimes shames even stops us from acknowledging they exist. But we need to step back and ask if we are truly happy with our choices, the way we live our life and what we would like in it and wouldn't. And slowly learn how to build the healthier life we seek. Three Actionable Takeaways: View shame as information about misalignment, not evidence of inadequacy—it evolved to guide you, not punish you Recognize that growth happens in difficulty, not comfort—the urge to escape is the moment to lean in Build intrinsic motivation rooted in values, not just outcomes—sustainable change comes from who you're becoming, not what you're avoiding This episode originally aired on the Unhooked Podcast by Jeremy Lipkowitz. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to addictions 03:26 Sam's Podcast and Philosophy 05:44 Defining Growth Mindset 09:35 Sam's Journey and Personal Growth 10:26 The Power of Mindset in Education 15:33 Growth Mindset and Recovery 16:49 Neuroplasticity and Overcoming Addiction 17:38 Sam's Experience with Porn Addiction 24:17 Challenges of Identifying and Addressing Addictions 25:39 The Subtle Creep of Addictive Behaviors 26:35 The Influence of Social Media and Algorithms 27:50 The Thin Line Between Social Media and Porn 28:15 Female Empowerment or Objectification? 29:55 The Impact of Porn on Real-Life Relationships 32:41 The Role of Shame in Human Evolution 34:56 The Social Function of Gossip 36:02 The Duality of Human Nature 38:36 The Duality of Shame and Success 39:44 Empathy and Understanding Human Behavior 44:37 Embracing Our Animal Nature 46:17 Lessons from Podcasting 51:22 Final Thoughts and Future Projects Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10 Okt 202557min
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Be Crystal Clear: 3 Truths and 2 Tips to Communicate with Impact [Archive]
Our cognitive biases and ego can muddy the waters of our minds and block the path to clear communication. Today's episode provides strategies on how to be both a more effective thinker and communicator. Topics: Communication problems in relationships, business and writing Cognitive blockers to clarity How to identify and maintain a grip on the most important thing What bundling and unbundling can apply to problem-solving and communication Freebies Episode prompts - Clarity Problem Solving Worksheet Influence the Show Meet me - Free call Feedback - Request and Ideas Form Growth Mindset pod Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Explosive Thinking Chapters 00:00 The Curse of Overlooking the Obvious 03:13 Romantic Communication 05:38 The Goal of Simple, Clear Communication 11:42 Concept of Bundling and Unbundling Things 15:21 Applying Bundling and Unbundling to Problem-Solving 16:45 Using Bundling and Unbundling for Clear Communication 19:40 Making the Obvious Obvious 20:34 An Invitation to Chat 21:46 Send Off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7 Okt 202525min
From Escaping the Holocaust to Building a Billion Dollar Empire - The Life and Mindsets of Dame Stephanie Shirley
Dame Stephanie Shirley built a billion-dollar tech empire from her kitchen table in the 1960s, pioneered remote work before anyone knew what Wi-Fi was, and discovered the psychology behind turning survivor's guilt into unstoppable motivation. This isn't some feel-good story about "everything happens for a reason." It's a masterclass in how your brain can rewire trauma into resilience. Stephanie shows us that the experiences that nearly destroy us often contain the exact ingredients we need to build something extraordinary. Reframe your biggest setbacks as your competitive advantage—they teach you what "real problems" actually look like Use constraints to spark creativity—Stephanie's limitations forced innovations that changed entire industries Transform guilt into contribution—the antidote to feeling unworthy is making others' lives better About Dame Stephanie Shirley Wikipedia - Steve Shirley Website - SteveShirley.com Book - Let It Go NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to the Growth Mindset Podcast 02:22 A Journey from Nazi Germany to England 04:17 Adjusting to a New Life in England 06:31 Overcoming Survivor's Guilt and Depression 06:47 The Role of Compassion and Philanthropy 07:11 Seeking Help and the Tavistock Clinic 09:15 Challenges and Innovations in Remote Work 10:31 Pioneering Software Development 15:50 Women in the Workforce and Gender Equality 19:01 The Impact of Global Crises on Society 21:30 The Future of Technology and Global Solutions 23:00 The Universal Impact of Viruses and Environment 23:22 Opportunities in Space Exploration 24:31 Striving for a Fairer World 25:09 Adopting a Learning Mindset 25:49 Leading a Spiritual Life 27:31 Managing People Effectively 28:36 The Importance of Enjoying Work 29:07 Advancements in Autism Research 35:20 Innovative Tech Ideas 38:37 The Kindness of Foster Parents 39:24 Reflecting on the Podcast Episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3 Okt 202546min
Lessons, Paradoxes and Hard Questions For Building an Authentic Life
We chase alignment with our purpose, values, passions but can sometimes get a little lost on the way. Life has a scary habit of passing us by in a rush and Sam has just turned 35 years old and feeling very philosophical about the whole thing. We take a tour of some of the big problems in society people struggle with and the paradoxes that make them difficult. From waning attention spans to political chaos or the lenses and mindsets that we view life with. Sam weaves together some of the hottest topics into coherent discussions on how we can be who we want to be in a changing world. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflection 00:32 Lessons from the Past Year 01:49 The Paradox of Authenticity 04:36 Personal Growth and Transformation 06:05 Nostalgia and Self-Realization 08:25 Balancing Gratitude and Ambition 10:12 Overcoming Overwhelm in Big Projects 12:44 The Dopamine Dilemma 16:07 Emotions and Entitlement 17:44 The Political Divide 20:27 The State of Modern Content 22:04 Critique of Content Creation 23:20 The Impact of Dopamine-Driven Content 25:29 Lenses to view life with 26:41 Midlife Reflections and New Beginnings 31:22 The Value of Taking Action 31:44 The Importance of Memories 34:01 Embracing Randomness and Serendipity 35:55 Final Thoughts and Birthday Wishes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
30 Sep 202540min
12 Questions For Meaningful Relationships - How to go deep w/ Topaz Azides
You know that Stupid questions = Stupid answers. It's the same for boring questions. If you want to live a meaningful life with space for personal growth and connection with those around you. The answer is fantastic questions. Questions that help you understand yourself better and your partner. Questions that lead to conversations where you really see each other deep down at a human to human level. Topaz Azides, is an Emmy-winning director who spent a decade analyzing 1,200 couples to understand why some thrive while others stall. He discovered that humans are "answering machines"—we can't help but respond to the prompt in front of us. He crafted 12 questions that act like rocket fuel for connection, moving you from small talk to the conversations you're secretly desperate to have. This isn’t about cheesy one-liners; it's a practical framework for reframing your mindset: Learn why our brains are hardwired to answer any question, and how to use this quirk for psychology-driven growth. Discover how to use arguments to build psychological resilience and make your relationship stronger, not break it. Embrace the idea that every moment is unique and discover how to treat it that way, fostering cognitive flexibility in your interactions. Topaz Azides Get the book: https://www.topazadizes.com/book NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 Humans are obsessed with questions 03:18 What does a growth mindset mean 03:52 Architecting Experiences 04:03 Lessons from creating 12 questions 07:58 do people compete to say better answers 10:03 Finding new dimensions 11:36 The process of creating 12 questions for love 11:36 What is the and 11:36 How and why did they change specific question elements 15:24 Humans are answering machines 17:51 Other great question 20:09 The power of being articulate 22:17 the power of attention 24:14 Question loops 26:17 Chapters of life 27:56 Pre-interview questions 30:06 Dangers of quick fixes - should a relationship be allowed to end 35:30 Cultural or regional variations 38:18 Playing the 12 questions game 38:30 Daily practices or habits for sustaining a relationship 41:50 Showing to kids that communication is important 42:13 How to stay positive 47:01 Future projects 49:42 Reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
26 Sep 202556min
A Curios Thing About Your Ego (and 3 ways to turn it down)
The ego is more unruly than you think. We dissect how it works and how to make it work for you. When you don't watch it carefully your brain will trick you into thinking it knows things it doesn't. This can lead to all sorts of disasters. Learn 3 ways that your ego get's in the way of real growth and learning and how to build a stronger and more open mindset. Lessons: Create Space: Begin by admitting what you don't know to open the door for discovery. Embrace the Amateur: Find the edge of your ability, for that is where all meaningful growth begins. Facilitate, Don't Force: Guide others to their own insights instead of delivering yours fully formed. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 How your mind is like an annoying chatbot 04:01 Surrendering Our Assumptions 06:22 Seeking Our Own Incompetence 08:04 Mr. Beast's Path from Incompetence to Mastery 10:19 Stop Blocking "Aha" Moments 11:57 Allowing Self-Persuasion 12:18 The Entrepreneur's Paradox of Asking for Advice 13:35 Closing Thoughts on Humility's Impact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
23 Sep 202516min
How to Cultivate Awareness and Self-Control to Overcome Addiction - w/ Jeremy Lipkowitz
Ever felt like you're fighting a losing battle with your own brain? Addictions are like that. We learn the mindsets and psychology to build self-awareness and take control of your decisions and behaviours. Jeremy Lipkowitz, a former Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and coach is the host of "Unhooked: breaking porn addiction podcast". He helps men break free from compulsive behaviors—especially porn addiction—and build lives of integrity, discipline, and deep fulfilment. Topics: - The role of shame in all addictions - Why porn is rapidly growing and difficult addiction - How to build healthier coping mechanisms - Strategies for dealing with distraction Jeremy Lipkowitz - Website - https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/ - Academy - https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ - Podcast - https://unhooked.buzzsprout.com/ NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 Jeremy Lipkowitz 02:26 Defining Addiction 05:54 Modern Addictions and Self-Awareness 09:03 Mindfulness and Addiction 13:24 Exploring Mindfulness Practices 16:54 Defining Addiction 21:52 The Role of Shame in Addiction 26:58 Challenges of Overcoming Porn Addiction 28:26 Triggers and Coping Mechanisms 31:00 Healthy Coping Mechanisms 34:42 Practical Tips for Reducing Phone Use 37:09 The Benefits of Boredom 45:58 Seeking Support and Community 47:30 Wrap up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
19 Sep 202552min
How to Teach a Growth Mindset to Children (and to yourself)
You want your kid to magically become some badass, challenge-eating machine? Lectures don’t work, praise gets boring, and perfectionism is just another word for control freak. We dive into the reality behind both teaching and practicing a growth mindset. Firstly it starts with you living a growth mindset so this episode is primarily a masterclass on building one yourself. Self-efficacy is crucial for resilience and overcoming setbacks that hit us everyday. Yet there are so many nuances when you try to teach a growth mindset. The wrong praise makes things worse, Even being too strict about growth mindset practices can make things worse... Ideas explored: - Use everyday conversation to challenge the "rules" of life - Turn failures into stories of possibility, not shame - How to balance giving praise and rewards vs. letting them build grit and intrinsic motivation. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast RSS feed - https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset CHAPTERS 00:00 How to teach kids a growth mindset 00:01 Introduction: The Importance of a Growth Mindset 00:31 The Challenge of Instant Gratification 02:01 Defining Growth Mindset 02:39 The Power of Embracing Challenges 03:04 Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset 03:41 Teaching Growth Mindset to Children 05:26 How do we embody and teach a growth mindset 07:19 Practical Tips for Embodying Growth Mindset 08:44 Space for growth 12:02 Open minded approach to opportunity 14:18 Responding to Mistakes 15:58 The Impact of Praise and Rewards 16:54 How do we create an environment for growth mindset? 19:29 Talk about mistakes 20:05 Common Pitfalls in Teaching Growth Mindset 21:11 The Importance of Consistency 22:23 Do you raelly have a growth mindset? 23:08 Self-Reflection and Feedback 24:29 The Value of Travel and Exposure to Different Cultures 25:43 Final Tips and Encouragement 26:06 Conclusion and Call to Action Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
16 Sep 202530min
