Danielle Legland. Karrierebytte og skam. Å bli definert av andre. Koronatiltak, silotankegang, alene på fødestua, fødselsdepresjon og langtidskonsekvenser. Episode 29

Danielle Legland. Karrierebytte og skam. Å bli definert av andre. Koronatiltak, silotankegang, alene på fødestua, fødselsdepresjon og langtidskonsekvenser. Episode 29

Danielle Legland valgte å starte på nytt. Etter endte kommunikasjonsstudier følte hun at hun ønsket å gjøre noe annet, så da flyttet hun til Tromsø hvor hun gjennomførte studier i psykologi.. Når en tidligere lærer hørte det, uttalte hun; “hva? Skal Danielle bli Psykolog??”.

Det er lett å la seg definere av folk rundt oss. Det påfører oss skam og begrensninger som kan sitte igjen i tiår. Karakterer, personlighetstrekk, hobbyer, klesstil eller atferd i ungdomstiden som vi ikke klarer å legge bak oss. Dette er et tema vi går nærmere inn på ila samtalen.

Danielle opplevde å føde alene i mars 2020. Danielle forteller om sin opplevelse og ytrer sine tanker om silotankegangen som har rådet under korona pandemien og behovet for å ta vare på alle sårbare mennesker i krisetider. Danielle er som psykolog bekymret for langtidskonsekvensene av korona. Barn som vokser opp med mødre med fødselsdepresjon. Disse tallene har dessverre økt under korona.

Vi snakker også om viktigheten av å lære seg kildekritikk i tidlig alder. At dette kanskje er det viktigste virkemiddelet for å unngå negative konsekvenser av teknologi (og sosiale medier). Vi håper at barn kan slippe å vokse opp og tro at alt de ser i sosiale medier og på reklameplakater er realistisk å sammenligne seg med og jobbe mot.

Å gå til psykolog er noe vi tror de fleste av oss kunne hatt godt av ved minst en anledning ila livet. Å ha god kjemi med psykologen er alfa omega og vi ønsker oss derfor også flere mannlige psykologer. For er det realistisk at alle menn skal føle seg komfortable med å åpne seg for noen som kanskje ikke forstår problemstillingen de står ovenfor?

Vi stiller også spørsmålstegn ved noe som lett ses på som sannheter i samfunnet: “Jeg er bedre enn deg fordi jeg har har bedre karakterer enn deg/ går på dette studiet/ gikk på den og den skolen/ jobber for denne bedriften/ ..... ”.

Kan vi ikke alle være bra selv om vi har ulik bakgrunn?

Er det ikke viktigere med resultatene og engasjementet vi kan vise til i dag?

Personlig vil jeg mye heller ha en engasjert person til å gjøre et arbeid for meg, enn en person med en flott CV som ikke er motivert til å yte best mulig. Ser vi ikke stadig vekk folk som stiger i gradene pga erfaring/ CV og som yter dårlig pga manglende motivasjon?

De sier folk flest slutter i jobbene sine pga dårlig ledelse. Er ikke engasjement da å ettertrakte i en fremtid hvor folk flest forhåpentligvis ikke slutter pga frustrasjon over ledelsen?

NB: denne episoden ble spilt inn i november 2020.

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Attachment Styles Uncovered: How Anxious & Avoidant Patterns Shape Our Work, Money, Family, and Dating. Episode 103

Attachment Styles Uncovered: How Anxious & Avoidant Patterns Shape Our Work, Money, Family, and Dating. Episode 103

Are you aware of your attachment style?  Anxious, avoidant, anxious avoidant or secure.  67% of the population is anxious, avoidant or anxiously avoidant... That is the majority.  This subconsciously impact all aspects of our lives. Our relationship to everything from relationships, dating, work, money, hobbies, exercise or making things happen.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #dating #peoplepleasing #codependency

17 Feb 202520min

Body scan meditation with meditative music. Land back into your body. Mindfulness. Episode 102

Body scan meditation with meditative music. Land back into your body. Mindfulness. Episode 102

Calm your mind and body with a calming body scan meditation with zen music.  Feel into where you are right now, observere and let yourself ground into a calm nervous system.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is the gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #meditation #mindfulness #bodyscan #grounding #calming #somaticwork

14 Feb 202528min

Perfectionism, avoidance, control and how it distracts us from going for what we want. Episode 101

Perfectionism, avoidance, control and how it distracts us from going for what we want. Episode 101

Do you allow yourself to practice, play, look stupid, let go of control, show vulnerability, surrender, feel, ask for help, loooooooose control?  Perfectionism creates avoidance. It's control.  It's trying to be perfect so that noone can reject you, critique you, control you.  Well, being perfect is also not perfect, it's quite exhausting for yourself and everyone else.  Breath, let go and let people in. Let yourself have a break.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/vZQbeNOsOmc    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #perfectionism #avoidance #control #goals #surrender

13 Feb 202515min

Perpetrators. Bully, gossip, blame, shame, critique. How and why we all enter the perpetrator role. Why and how to change into a challenger. Episode 100

Perpetrators. Bully, gossip, blame, shame, critique. How and why we all enter the perpetrator role. Why and how to change into a challenger. Episode 100

Have you ever gossiped, judged, criticized, blamed, shamed, pointed fingers, hit, punched, pushed or bullied someone else?  If you answer no, I don’t believe you!  We ALL HAVE!  If you claim you haven’t, I am quite sure you have more than most. Start digging, get real! Even if you think you are an angel, you probably aren’t.  So why and how do we ALL turn into perpetrators? How does it look like? Perpetrators come alongside victims and rescuers. And within this dynamics WE SWOP ROLES WITHIN A SINGLE CONVERSATION. We start out as the victim, move into to perpetrator and end up as the rescuer. And so it rolls.  We believe we are angels, but really! We are not. No one is. I explain how toxic these dynamics are and how to get out of them. How to take accountability for your own life, words and actions.  Why?  Because you are hurting yourself. You are creating your own drama. You are getting yourself into dynamics you don’t want to be in.  Watch/ listen into my podcast to learn how you can become the challenger, coach and creator - instead of the perpetrator, rescuer and victim… These are the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Dynamics.  Someone focusing on everyone else’s problems and never your own. Not trusting in anyone else to do a good enough job. Watch/ listen into the episode to learn how to stop burning out. How to get help, how to cut back on responsibilities. how to find time for the things YOU wanna do.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/0D6dnrOfYWU    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction #perpetrator #challenger #coach #rescuer #victimrole #hero

11 Feb 202532min

Stop burning out, fixing the world, rescuing people and pleasing people. Believe people are capable. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 99

Stop burning out, fixing the world, rescuing people and pleasing people. Believe people are capable. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 99

Burned out? Tired? Empty? Exhausted? Anxious? Worried? Never time, energy, focus and money left to yourself? Always someone else who needs you more than you? No one else manage to help you. Everyone else does a poor job. You are always stuck with the work. Sounds like you are a rescuer, a fixer. Someone focusing on everyone else’s problems and never your own. Not trusting in anyone else to do a good enough job. Watch/ listen into the episode to learn how to stop burning out. How to get help, how to cut back on responsibilities. how to find time for the things YOU wanna do.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/enug_nvLcyk    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction #rescuer #victimrole #hero

11 Feb 202540min

Acting like a victim isn't attractive. Take accountability and stop complaining, blaming, pointing fingers. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 98

Acting like a victim isn't attractive. Take accountability and stop complaining, blaming, pointing fingers. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 98

Do you want something in your life?  Well, then go make it happen.  Get up, get out, start making a plan, doing research, taking accountability for your non-doing, your own actions, your own choices.. HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE WORLD.  You want something, well, then start MAKING SOME ACTION. Get of your phone, your screen, your couch.  Stop distracting yourself with shiny unicorns.  Get real. Be honest with yourself.  WHAT IS WITHIN YOUR POWER TO CHANGE IS YOU AND YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS.  You don't want to attract and get from "poor me" attitude. It's not poor you. You are capable, YOU ARE! Just freaking start.  DOING SOMETHING.... AnYtHiNg that will take you closer to where you want to be. Probably more confident in one way or the other. Well, how do you build that confidence within YOU?  Find a coach, take a class, go dancing, read a book on the topic, go for a walk, write, ask people for their insights and knowledge (not for them to do the work and rescue you... Again, not very sexy...)  I know you can. We all can.  And now is the time. The best time of them all. Cut the crap. The excuses and bullshit. YOU CAN, if you really want to. That is.     I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://youtu.be/ymvzNOQDSFU    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.        #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic #accountability #dopaminaddiction

11 Feb 202524min

Victimhood role in women vs men. Build inner confidence and become attractive. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 97

Victimhood role in women vs men. Build inner confidence and become attractive. Drama triangle vs Empowerment Dynamics. Episode 97

What is your excuse for not creating your life? For not taking accountability for yourself?  Feel hopeless, powerless, not able, incapable, that nothing works, that it's not possible for you? Just cannot?  Not enough money, time, energy, IQ, EQ.  Not good enough body, looks, brains...  Nobody gets you.  Nobody wants you.  You need someone to come fix you, rescue you. Preferably someone successful, pretty, amazing....  Whatever.  Well, sounds like you indulge yourself inside the victimhood role and I am here to tell you how you throw away your potential, your inner strength and possibilities.  Change your mindset and set yourself free.  From "I cannot" to "I can".. You freaking can. You have it all inside of you. Find it. Digg it out. Stop waiting to be rescued. Stop putting people on pedestals. Stop looking down on yourself.  IT'S NOT SEXY! IT'S NOT ATTRACTIVE. Find ways to start believing in yourself.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://youtu.be/ymvzNOQDSFU    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.        #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline #victimhoodrole #confidence #attract #magnetic

11 Feb 202536min

Prioritize, focus and work towards your own goals, not whatever will make people like you. Episode 96

Prioritize, focus and work towards your own goals, not whatever will make people like you. Episode 96

When did you last work towards YOUR own goal?  Something you want to do, that other people might not understand.  Not to get approval, attention, likes, compliments.  Simply because it feels like what YOU want to do.  When did you last say no, and prioritized your time, money and energy towards your own yes.  Where is your focus?  What do you prioritize?  Be honest with yourself.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is the gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.        #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship #goals #prioritze #focus #discipline

10 Feb 202538min

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