Week Four Summer of Mentorship 2020 :: Sally Clarkson

In the past two years, a lot has changed in the lives of my friends Hailey and Meredith. They came on episode 199 to talk about discipline and toddlers. Since that conversation their families have grown and changed.  Today we’re chatting about tough transitions with parenting young kids. Whether it’s a newborn who won’t stop screaming or the anticipation of being outnumbered by a third child, change is hard for both parents and kids.  Hailey and Meredith share how they’ve found hope in God during some difficult situations and how their community of friends have helped them not mom alone.  “They reminded me that God is working in this. He has not left you. He is working in this situation. And that gave me a lot of hope. One specific friend said: You are serving the Lord when you are holding your screaming baby, when you are in there trying to teach her how to go to sleep. That is service to the Lord.”   Links Mentioned:   Discipline & Toddlers :: Hailey Bain & Meredith Woodruff [Ep 199] Meredith shared scripture from Lamentations 3:16-24 Foundations Book by Ruth and Troy Simons ** Meredith's business : Concrete Conversations Hailey's business : Hey Honey Clothing Company and her Facebook Store Sponsors: Sunbasket -- Get $35 off your first order of meals over at Sunbasket.com/dma. Use code DMA. Exploring the Bible Together --Now through May 25, 2020, Don’t Mom Alone listeners can pick up a copy of Exploring the Bible Together along with a selection of ESV children’s Bibles for 40% off with a free Crossway+ membership. For more information, visit  crossway.org/DMA8.

25 Mai 202040min

During the ongoing health crisis of COVID-19, there are a lot of changes in household finances. Maybe grocery and electric bills have gone up because everyone is home. You or your spouse may have a reduction in income or you’ve faced losing your job.  In the same way we work to protect ourselves with social distancing and wearing masks in public, there are some important things we can do to protect our finances and take time to reflect on where our money goes each month. Financial coach Ericka Young joins me to talk about budgets, cutting costs and how we can use this time to reprioritize. “This is the perfect time to reflect on what it is that you really want, why you want it. And I think if people reflect on what their goals were in the beginning of the year and make certain that this season doesn't derail their progress. We can start looking on the bright side and ask God what he has next for us.”  Ericka is the owner of Tailor-Made Budgets and has a passion for helping people pay off debt. Listen to how she and her husband paid off almost $100,000 in episode 244. Connect with Ericka:  Website: tailormadebudgets.com Facebook: facebook.com/TailorMadeBudgets  Instagram: @tailormadebudgets  Links Mentioned:   Ep 244 Budget Isn’t a Dirty Word :: Ericka Young [PODCAST] The CARES Act Works for All Americans [WEBSITE] Coronavirus Tax Relief and Economic Impact Payments [WEBSITE] Access more resources and links on Ericka’s Blog [WEBSITE] Sponsors:  Beachbody --Free Trial Membership. Text HEATHER to 303030 Exploring the Bible Together --Now through May 25, 2020, Don’t Mom Alone listeners can pick up a copy of Exploring the Bible Together along with a selection of ESV children’s Bibles for 40% off with a free Crossway+ membership. For more information, visit crossway.org/DMA7.  Little Passports -- Use DMA to get 15% off any subscription at https://www.littlepassports.com/

18 Mai 202035min

With the current global pandemic, we are all together more than ever and it’s causing friction in our relationship with our spouse and kids. Back by popular demand, Paul David Tripp is here to answer your parenting and marriage questions and give us hope for how God can grow good things in our families during this challenging time “One of the things that I've tried to keep in mind as we're going through this unprecedented thing is what the cross of Jesus Christ teaches us. God can produce very good things out of very bad things. So I want to ask the question, what is the good that God wants for my marriage and my parenting out of this?” We talk about building trust and unity in a marriage, making a plan with your spouse for parenting and discipline and the three stages of parenting from a Gospel perspective. It’s my hope that this episode will fill you with fresh faith for what is possible in your family.  Connect with Paul David Tripp:  Website:  paultripp.com Facebook: facebook.com/pdtripp  Instagram: @paultrippquotes   Listen to previous Paul David Tripp episodes: Gospel Parenting :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 176] Opportunity vs. Disruption :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 212] Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234] Family.paultripp.com Sponsors:  Exploring the Bible Together --now through May 18, 2020, Don’t Mom Alone listeners can pick up a copy of Exploring the Bible Together along with a selection of ESV children’s Bibles for 40% off with a free Crossway+ membership. For more information, visit crossway.org/DMA6.  Thrive Market -- Go to ThriveMarket.com/DMA. Join today and you’ll get up to twenty dollars in shopping credit toward your first order.

11 Mai 202054min

I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend Aubrie Norman. We have walked together in community for a few years and it’s been a gift to see her family’s journey toward healing.  Aubrie and her husband Thomas came to their marriage from broken families and felt the weight of unresolved issues from their past. As their family grew, so did the stress and lack of communication about each of their emotional needs. Aubrie carried every perceived failure in marriage and parenting thinking it was her responsibility to make life better. “There's obviously something I'm doing wrong. I'm a new wife and mom, so I felt the weight of responsibility. That really goes back to a huge lie, I have believed for a long time in my walk with the Lord. That it's up to me to do something and that God's waiting on me.” She takes us into her family’s story of recovery and how she’s learned to trust God to take care of her relationships.   Links Mentioned:   Celebrate Recovery [WEBSITE] Sponsors:   Sun Basket -- www.sunbasket.com/dma  Crossway --  Exploring the Bible Together along with a selection of ESV children’s Bibles for 40% off with a free Crossway+ membership. For more information, visit crossway.org/DMA5.

4 Mai 202041min

Have you ever questioned the roles you find yourself in, wondering if you were made for more?  Jo Saxton found herself in that position a few years (and two babies) into her marriage. She shares her struggle to own her calling and gifting, choose to work outside the home, and how her family thrived when she let go of fear. Fear is not our friend. It has these aggressive ways that intimidate you and it has these quiet ways where you just don't do things and you don't know that that kind of checking out. It is a fear-based thing because it's so automatic. You don't even call it fear anymore. They're just the things you don't do and the ideas you don't entertain anymore. Now as a leadership coach and speaker, Jo affirms that God designed women for influence and impact. In her new book, Ready to Rise, she shares meaningful wisdom from her journey to leadership and shares information to empower other women to leaders in their own communities.  Connect with Jo:  Website: www.josaxton.com  Facebook: facebook.com/1josaxton  Instagram:  @josaxton  Links Mentioned:   Coaching with Jo [WEBSITE] Ready to Rise [BOOK] Sponsors:  Little Passports-- littlepassports.com use code DMA for 15% off Story Worth -- storyworth.com/dma for $10 off  SkyLight Frame -- skylightframe.com use code DMA for $10 off

27 Apr 202047min

Dr. Lucretia Berry is the founder of Brownicity, an online space that provides education and support for racial healing. She joins me to share how we all can take steps to advocate and bring restoration to our communities that have been fractured by the lies and injustice of racism.  As a mom of a multi-ethinic family, Lucretia shares how she and her husband addressed how they would teach their children about race. They didn’t want to teach their daughters to be “colorblind,” but instead wanted to talk about the many hues of humanity in a healthy way that cultivated life and beauty. When that conversation extended beyond their family, Brownicity was born. Since then, Lucretia has authored a study, created an online course and spoken at many events to spread this antiracism information in a way that is accessible for everyone.  It isn't about if you're racist or not, it's not even about that. You know, this is about how we've been molded and shaped. There are all these decisions that I've made in my life that are based on how I've been racialized and not necessarily my God-given identity. We all have this work to do, to detox from the ideology that we’ve been swimming in for the past 400 years or so. We've inherited it. But God is greater, so we have hope that we can create something new. To access her courses for free in the month of April and May, learn more here.  Connect with Lucretia:  Website:  https://brownicity.com Facebook: facebook.com/brownicity Instagram: @lucretiaberry and @brownicity  Links Mentioned:   Educational Resources for Beginners [PDF] Courses on Brownicity [WEBSITE] What LIES Between Us Journal & Guide [BOOK] Lucretia’s TED Talk [VIDEO] Sponsors:  Skylight Frames : skylightframes.com To get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame just go to SkylightFrame.com and enter code DMA. Beachbody OnDemand : Text "Heather" to 303030 to get free 2 week trial

20 Apr 202048min

In this bonus episode, we are sharing information from a session Ian Morgan Cron did on Enneagram and Stress. We go through each Enneagram number and talk about their strengths and weaknesses under pressure and some simple ways for each type to flourish in these hard times   As we’ve said in previous episodes, the Enneagram is just a tool to help us understand ourselves and others better. At a time when being quarantined at home can cause all kinds of friction, understanding each other’s unique perspective on the world is such a gift.  And the goal isn’t to stay stuck in our Enneagram number. The ultimate goal is to move toward health/wholeness and follow Jesus.  “Jesus doesn’t have an Enneagram number. The wholeness of God is in him and he is at the center of all the nine types.” Connect with Ian Morgan Cron:  Website:  ianmorgancron.com Facebook: facebook.com/IanMorganCron Instagram:  @ianmorgancron YouTube: youtube.com/imcron Podcast: typologypodcast.com  Links Mentioned:   Ep 232 The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [PODCAST] Ep 259 The Enneagram, Marriage and the Gospel :: Beth McCord [PODCAST] Get an In-Depth Enneagram Report for 20% with code “COVID19” The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery [BOOK] Enneagram and Stress (Quarantine Edition) by Ian Cron [VIDEO]  Sponsor a Child with Compassion Text HEATHER to 83393, and you’ll get a link back to a child you can sponsor. Go to compassion.com/dontmomalone to start sponsoring a child.

17 Apr 202036min

We’re all processing the changes that the COVID-19 pandemic has made to our daily routines. As we adjust to the new normal of sheltering-in-place, I wanted to share some information I’ve found helpful from Dr. Henry Cloud. On a recent webinar I attended, Dr. Cloud talked through the psychology and the science of all that’s happening in our brains as our worlds have been turned upside down. He shares great ways to help us and our families stay mentally healthy during this unique time in history. (or during any time of crisis) “We need to view ourselves like a house in how we're experiencing COVID-19 matters. The foundation of a house or a human is this sense of bondedness and connectedness to God and people. Relationships are vital to our structural integrity. ” Connect with Dr. Henry Cloud:  Website:  www.drcloud.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrHenryCloud Instagram:  @drhenrycloudofficial Links Mentioned:   Episodes with Kirk Martin [PODCAST]  Emotional Milestones :: Sissy Goff & David Thomas [PODCAST] Feelings Vocabulary Chart [IMAGE]  Dr. Henry Cloud - Being Psychologically Healthy During Times of Crisis [PODCAST] 4 Things You Can Do For Your Mental Health During the COVID-19 Crisis [BLOG] Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl  [BOOK] Inside Out [MOVIE] Available streaming on Disney+ Home [MOVIE] Sponsor a Child with Compassion Text HEATHER to 83393, and you’ll get a link back to a child you can sponsor. Go to compassion.com/dontmomalone to start sponsoring a child.

13 Apr 202037min