#283 - People Pleaser? How to Stop.

Super quick announcement to let you know that, due to some unforeseen technical issues, the "How Healthy is Your Relationship" Quiz I've mentioned on a number of podcasts is now available by texting RELQUIZ to 33777. The old number (345345) is no longer operational as of 2/28/20.  You can also access the quiz on the GrowingSelf.com website. I hope this change did not create any confusion or inconvenience for you. Okay, that's all -- I'll be back in touch with a new *actual* podcast for you on Monday! xoxo, LMB

28 Feb 20201min

LEAVING a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? Or thinking about it? If so, my heart goes out to you: You've already been through the wringer. As a therapist who specializes in toxic relationship addiction, and having researched and written a breakup recovery book, I know from years of experience that when you're addicted to a toxic relationship, it messes with your mind. Toxic relationships trash your self esteem. They damage your ability to trust. But even worse, after tolerating months or even years in a toxic relationship it can make you feel like you can't even trust your own judgement anymore. In order to provide you with the empowering support and perspective that can support YOUR growth and recovery, I've invited writer Shannon Ashley to join me on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.  Shannon is not the type of "official" relationship expert that I often have on the show — she's so much more. She's a fellow traveler who has walked through the fire, and come out the other side. She has been able to give a voice to the experience that you're going through, and she has a unique perspective on what it really takes to heal from a toxic relationship. I'm so pleased that she's here to share her hard won wisdom with YOU today. Wishing you all the best, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

24 Feb 20201h 18min

There's a unique type of existential anxiety brewing in younger professionals lately who consider their career future and wonder, "Are robots coming for my job?"  To help you move forward fearlessly into a bright professional future, I've invited future-focused career coach Nicolle Merrill to speak with us. She's here today to share her best future career advice with you, including: Insight into what types of future careers are more vulnerable to AI and automation than others How to balance passion and practicality as you're developing your career goals What to do if you create your ideal career... and then realize you hate your job How to manage anxiety about your future career How to develop your emotional intelligence How to reduce the risk when making a big career change The types of skill sets and personal qualities that will always be in high demand All that and more, as we discuss YOUR career future on the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

17 Feb 20201h 8min

If you want to create a fantastic relationship, there's one irreplaceable ingredient that you must have: Emotional safety. If you have emotional safety everything from communication to intimacy feels so much easier. But without it, everything feels like a battle. Today, on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm going to share the secrets behind how to create emotional safety in your relationship. We'll be discussing: What emotional safety is, and why it's important How to determine if your relationship is emotionally safe or not How to begin increasing the emotional safety in your relationship Understanding what behaviors will damage emotional safety How to use the principles of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to improve your relationship Happy Valentine's Day! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com PS: If you want to take the free "How Healthy is Your Relationship" assessment I mention in this episode, text RELQUIZ to 345345 to get the link.

10 Feb 202053min

If you started the new year with ambitious goals and aspirations that are already on life-support, or have been abandoned altogether: CONGRATULATIONS. Only now do you have the real-world information you need to reassess your situation, gain more clarity, and tweak your approach. To help you figure out how to achieve your most ambitious goals for real, I've invited master life coach Laurie Gerber of The Handel Group to share her tips for how to use setbacks to understand yourself more deeply, and shine a spotlight on the mental, emotional and practical strategies that will help you achieve your most ambitious goals. Listen and learn: How creating multidimensional, holistic self-awareness can help you uncover blindspots that could otherwise become obstacles. Why the obvious path to change is often not effective (and what often unseen things actually are) How to get your thoughts, feelings and behavior into alignment Different ways of thinking that will help you stay motivated over the long haul I hope that this conversation helps YOU dig deeper, get into alignment, and get clarity about where to refocus your energy. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: We discussed a number of resources in this episode. One of them is our free Ten Year Plan exercise. If you haven't done this yet, here's the link to get the pdf or access to the online version.

3 Feb 20201h 2min

The path to wellness can be a long and challenging one if you're dealing with a chronic health condition... particularly one that does not have an obvious cause or simple solution. Dealing with these kinds of health issues requires an enormous amount of strength, courage, and persistence — all of which can be hard to come by when you're at a low point, physically. If you or someone you love is going through this, help is here. My colleague at Growing Self, Amy-Noelle Shih, M.A., LPC is a holistic, empowering therapist and life coach who specializes in supporting people on their journey back to health, and is sharing her empowering advice with you on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. All for you... Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

27 Jan 20201h 7min

How would you describe your relationship... with money? Secure? Anxious? Toxic? Neglected? Or... Easy? We all carry subconscious thoughts, feelings and values around money that impact our way of relating to it. Financial therapy helps you uncover these powerful inner forces, so that you can create a healthy money mindset so that you can feel empowered and in control of your finances. Financial therapy for couples helps you stop the "money fights" and get on the same page with your partner around money. Today's guest, financial therapist Jennifer Dunkle, is here to explain how YOU can develop a healthy money mindset — both individually, and as a couple — so that you can achieve your financial goals.

20 Jan 20201h 7min

Human beings are built to bond — but we can also develop powerful bonds to unhelpful behaviors, toxic people, and even substances of abuse.  Understanding the power of connection can help you break unhealthy attachments, and cultivate empowering, energizing new ones.  Here's how... Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

13 Jan 20201h 16min