Why Deconstructing Gaslighting?

In this episode, Sarah shares her passion for this podcast, the meaning and significance behind the concept of “Deconstructing”, AND WHY is it a crucial part of getting free and healing from gaslighting.

Listen in as Sarah and her guest, Lauren, talk about Lauren’s experiences of Deconstructing Gaslighting, and how it can be helpful in transforming your life. You’ll smile as you hear Lauren’s giggles throughout, raise a “ME TOO”, as Lauren talks about how gaslighting caused debilitating anxiety, and shout out a “YES QUEEN”, as we talk about how identifying the self-gaslighting allows us to re-write the narrative. Lauren is a registered nurse, wife, mom, fiery Aries, passionate feminist, and all-around badass!

Word of the day: Deconstruct - to break something down into its separate parts in order to understand its meaning, especially when this is different from how it was previously understood.

Story time: Why (and what is) Deconstructing?

Why as a podcast?

#1 – Validation, shame reduction, solidarity and community

#2 – To empower/educate by giving names to things

Why “Deconstructing”?

• Sarah flies her nerd flag proud as takes you back to her love of chemistry in 9th grade, and how her love of the science lab taught her that the more we are familiar with something, the more we can recognize it in different forms/surroundings/circumstances.
• Sarah works with gaslighting the same way: gaslighting can show up different ways, with different people, in different situations.

What is Deconstructing Gaslighting?

• In Sarah’s (free) workshop, she explains how there are two components to a gaslighting experience – what the gaslighter is doing, and what happens inside the person being gaslit.
• In her work, she has taken both components and looked at all the moving parts.
• The things she will talk about in this podcast are: 1) The gaslighter’s level of awareness, agenda/reason they may be gaslighting, methods, techniques, tactics, common phrases used and the roles someone may step into. 2) The stages of a gaslighting relationship (per Dr. Robin Stern) and two things about the gaslightee - risks/vulnerabilities, and the traps.
• In this podcast, we won’t do a deep dive, but I’ll name things from these categories, so that you can begin to understand them somewhat. (If you’re interested in doing the deep-dive, check out my 12-week program here).

Set your alarm: Embrace (your) Awakening. Embrace the process – commit to YOURSELF.

Closing: Thank you for listening! If you liked it, please leave a review and subscribe, and if you think others would benefit from it, please share it. And remember – it’s not about becoming who you want to be, it’s about awakening all that you already are!

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