Let me check in with myself

Do you sometimes (or often) struggle to know when to stand your ground and when to compromise or hold space for the other person’s unhealthy, immature, or unpredictable behavior? THIS IS A COMMON STRUGGLE – one that can very quickly take us out of our knowing. Join Sarah and her guest as they talk about how she is currently experiencing this, and some things she can do to help her STAY IN HER KNOWING!

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Word of the day: Should - according to Oxford Languages, should is a word used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions. This is one of the biggest red flags Sarah teaches her clients to pay attention to – whether it’s coming from someone else or ourselves. Should is a word that shifts our perspective EXTERNALLY, and the truth is something we find when our perspective STARTS INTERNALLY. Red flags are not automatic confirmation that gaslighting is happening – it’s a warning to slow down and get curious so that we’re not vulnerable to gaslighting. Let’s see how this is playing out in Sarah’s guest’s life right now.

Story Time: Sarah and her guest, Beth, run the gamut and talk about a variety of things – focusing on the difficulty Beth has had standing her ground dealing with a beloved Aunt who is gaslighting, in large part, because of her dementia. They discuss some ways she can stay in a place where she can love both her Aunt AND herself at the same time.

Set Your Alarm: A few highlights from today’s conversation:

1. Pause and say to yourself, as often as you can, “Let me check in with myself”.
2. Tap into your playwright and script out how a conversation with your gaslighter may go. Be ready for the bait, and response in a way that you don’t get sucked in and don’t “take the bait”.

Sarah wanted to invite YOU to be a guest on the podcast. If you’d like to share your story, get her brain on what you’ve experienced, and have her help you to be able to understand more clearly what has been happening in your relationship, please don’t hesitate to reach out to her and get on her calendar here!

And remember – it’s not about becoming who you want to be, it’s about awakening all that you already are!