Dating Intentionally1 Mar 2024

48. Navigating your needs when you're anxiously attached w/ Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide)

Why is asking for our needs to be met so scary? And how can we be our own secure base? These are the two main questions I explored with guest Rikki Cloos, who wrote an amazing book called Anxious Hearts Guide. We talk about what's happening when our anxious attachment is activated, what to do when we feel anxious in early dating situations, what's normal to need in a relationship and how to create more emotional safety for ourselves in dating. Rikki also talks about how she ended up in a long-term relationship with an avoidant attacher, and how they're healing their attachment wounds together. I love this episode!

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