Beyond the Box: When You Don't Fit Just One Enneagram Type
When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2 Apr 22min
Finding Grace in the Mess: Dana K. White on Home Management and Spiritual Freedom
Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you. With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged by others or themselves for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
31 Mar 42min
When Anxiety Takes the Wheel: Understanding Your Type's Relationship with Fear
How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity. Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
26 Mar 12min
Addiction in Relationships: How We All Heal Together w/Best-Selling Author Ian Cron, 4
In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube Resources mentioned in this episode: Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093 Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment "The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
24 Mar 46min
Building Internal Validation in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini
In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here! Here we explore: Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice Lived Evidence Documentation Faith-Based Self-Compassion Strategic Disengagement And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value, regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within. Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
19 Mar 11min
Beyond Self-Pres, Social & Sexual: A Fresh Take on Instincts That Drives You Forward w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman, Art of Growth
In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/ Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288 Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
17 Mar 1h 5min
Your 30 Min E + M Monthly Relationship Blueprint
Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode. You'll learn: The reminder that research backs how healthy addressing and communication dramatically improve relationship satisfaction A simple 3-part framework for your monthly meeting (Connection, Exploration, Solutions) How to adapt the process for different Enneagram types Practical tips to ensure the experience feels positive and productive Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy. Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform! Get the 30-minute monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting. << Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12 Mar 15min
The Space Between Us: Why Decentralizing Your Partner Creates Healthier Love
What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship. Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10 Mar 18min
