175 - The Borg Queen

And this is what Esteban has to say: "Hi Sandman, I've had many married friends in my time, and there's a pattern that's repeated itself over and over. Before they were married, my friends had lots of time to spend with their male friends. Afterward, not so much, and that's fine. Keeping a marriage working is a full-time job and it's unreasonable to expect the same kind of contact we had as single guys. What I find is that when I visit, I end up spending an inordinate amount of time with my friend's wife instead of him. She never works the kinds of hours he does, so she & I are together more than I am with him. Additionally, she has to be included in any activity we do together, and if I get any alone time with my friend it's after his wife has gone to bed--and that's maybe half an hour at the end of the day. Maybe I'm being selfish, but it seems strange that she & I can be without him, but he & I are not allowed to be without her. At first, it's a minor inconvenience. But after a while I find myself being treated like a second husband, including overt criticism if I haven't met her emotional needs. And this isn't a single couple; it's with nearly every married couple I've known over the last twenty years. What are your thoughts?" Well, that's what Esteban has to say. And comments are question about female nature are absolutely dead on. It's clear that women want to be included when guys hang out because in that way a woman can act like filter to make sure men aren't talking about her. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Women need men to adopt politically correct and woman friendly attitudes. Men have to behave well and be constantly put in their place. If you observe female behavior it's almost like they make many men feel like they are unable to manage their own emotions and require a woman to help navigate the emotional issues that men face. Women don't trust the way that men feel and think so they try to guide male action into a direction that is more suited towards their own needs. At the same time some women understand that if they cut their boyfriends and husbands off from their friendships entirely it makes them look like the bad ones. So they want their men to continue interacting with each other but only in ways that are socially acceptable. That's why women throw dinner parties so that everyone can socialize and be controlled and men can be herded around like a flock of sheep. Men that can think for themselves are a dying breed. We have advertising telling us what to buy. We have women telling us how to feel and we have the state making sure we do what we are supposed to at all times. Esteban you're just seeing the emotional prison your friends wife is trying to construct for you. Your friends wife is most likely interacting with you when your friend is not around for a number of different reasons. She might be assessing if you will be a negative influence on her man. She needs to determine if you are going to say or do anything that could potentially lead to him walking away in the future. She is acting the part of the psychologist.

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