Master Your Marriage8 Mar 2023

The Secret to Staying in Love

How do we keep that early, ‘in love’ feeling alive? If the romance has started to taper off in your relationship, fear not! Robert and Sharla are here to breathe life into your relationship with an inspirational visualization technique to help you fire up your love strategy.

If you’ve been buying your partner gifts, treating them to fancy dinners, and leaving thoughtful, romantic notes — and it’s still not working — then the chances are good that you aren’t employing the appropriate love strategy for your partner to feel loved in the way in which they need to feel loved.

Can you remember a time when you felt totally, deeply loved? What were those feelings like? Our brains have a love language that is developed by our experience of feeling loved. And because this language can involve any one of our five senses, there’s a chance that the reason you’re shooting in the dark with your romantic gestures is that you aren’t speaking your partner’s subconscious love language – using the sense (or senses) that stimulate them.

Becoming intentional about how you show your partner love is the exquisite gift of this episode, as we learn about our brain’s language for love — and then how to build a love strategy that keeps the spark alive, using that language. Please join Robert and Sharla in the language of love!

“Your love strategy will have one absolute, critical component that must be present — or that feeling of love won’t be generated.” ~ Sharla Snow

In This Episode:

- What is your unconscious love strategy? The secret to staying in love

- The unique way that you arrive at the experience of feeling loved

- Becoming intentional about how you show your partner love

- Making your own Love Jar (and other strategies that may or may not work!)

- How to avoid blindly shooting in the dark with words that don’t have meaning

- How to fire your partner’s love strategy

And so much more!

Resources:

- The 8 Pillars of an Exceptional Marriage - http://bit.ly/3Eksoqs

- Love Strategies Workbook - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/love-strategy

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: masteryourmarriagepodcast.com

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/

- Facebook - Facebook.com/masteryourmarriage

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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