Identifying Triggers That Derail Relationships

Identifying Triggers That Derail Relationships

I'm triggered! We hear those words more and more these days, but what does it actually mean? And more importantly, how can we get better at managing our own triggers?

In today's episode of Master Your Marriage, hosts Robert and Sharla are providing us with the tools we need to better navigate conflict in our own relationship. This starts with a clear definition of what a trigger is and continues with learning how to identify them (and perhaps even their source of origin).

Whether you get triggered by your loving partner or a stranger on a plane, the physical reaction to being triggered alone can feel debilitating. Your body may well be responding to old wounds.

Luckily, your marriage can be your masterclass in personal growth and development. Robert and Sharla beautifully demonstrate how to engage in trigger-identifying exercises from their own experience that can open the door to more empathy with your partner as well as not trying to change them.


After all, real empowerment comes from us taking personal responsibility for our own actions. So after exclaiming, "I'm triggered!" your next question should be: what am I going to do about it?



"Triggers are like our emotional baggage that we bring into our relationship. And if we don't take the time to unpack our own baggage, we then blame our partner when they trip over the bags that we've left in the middle of the room!" ~ Robert Snow


"There's also a possibility of a generational pattern that can be involved in these triggers as well." ~ Sharla Snow



In This Episode:

- What are triggers?

- How can a trigger be set off?

- Are you being triggered to fight or flee?

- How to identify your individual triggers

- Understanding emotional intelligence as our ability to recover from triggers

- Robert and Sharla share their own triggers with each other

- What do you do when you've identified your triggers?

And so much more!



Resources:

- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - ​​https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

- Link to the MYM 8-Week Coaching Program - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/MYM423



Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/

- Facebook - http://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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