Master Your Marriage23 Aug 2023

Unlocking Communication: From Gridlock To Compromise, Part 2

Compromise never feels perfect.

Great, now that we've got that out of the way, let's be honest about what compromise DOES feel like.

It can feel like you're giving up too much... like you're losing your identity... Or like your partner is the reason you don't get your dreams fulfilled.

Do these resonate with you?

Well, good news. It doesn't actually HAVE to feel that way.

Gottman research shows that before we start compromising at all, we need to dig deeper into understanding one another to really be able to make compromising decisions. The goal isn't to let go of your dreams, or lower your expectations -- it's to find a solution that honors both of you, and that can't be done if you don't have a strong understanding of the needs, dreams, and core values of your partner.

Join us on this episode to learn the 6 steps recipe for compromise. Trust us, it’s a game changer.

"Always have the mindset that when you hit an obstacle or conflict, it's a good opportunity to learn and grow together." - Robert Snow

In this Episode:

What causes us to vilify each other in the relationship
The danger of going into resolution mode too fast
Understanding one another on the deepest level
Knowing yourself more also helps - what can you be flexible about?
The temporary nature of compromise

And so much more!

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