Master Your Marriage30 Aug 2023

She Complains, He Ignores. How Accepting Influence Will Change That.

By the time a couple is ready to call it quits, chances are one, or both, of the parties involved have been complaining for quite some time – and eventually, someone just gets too tired of the complaining.

So, how do you avoid becoming THAT couple?

Well, you start by accepting influence. Being flexible enough to shift your viewpoint or response based on your partner’s feedback, taking those complaints and letting them affect you — this is what’s necessary to transform your conflicts into opportunities for connection.

You might be thinking, “It’s my partner that needs to shift their viewpoint, not me.” Or, “It’s them who needs to be influenced.”

Don’t worry. In this episode, we’ve got a secret for how to make yourself more influential too. So, press play as we dive into a “yielding to win” mindset.

"[Accepting influence] doesn’t mean we have to surrender our deeply held values or dreams, or even agree with everything our partner says ." - Robert Snow

“It's crucial to remember that acknowledging your partner's influence doesn't mean you're conceding defeat. It's really just about creating emotional safety and respect, where both of you can express yourselves freely and without fear.” - Sharla Snow

In this Episode:

What it means to accept influence
Different ways to respond to criticism and requests
How to become more powerful in the relationship
Phrases you can use to de-escalate criticism and accept influence

And so much more!

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