Master Your Marriage27 Sep 2023

Are You Lacking Emotional Intelligence in Your Marriage?

AI has taken over the business world. But can it help in marriage too?

Maybe… if you ask it to plan dates for you. Or write your spouse a poem…

No, instead, we’re in an era where we should be asking, “If not intellect, what other skill makes me stand out amongst the robots?”

The answer? Emotional Intelligence. Or EQ.

The ability to understand your own emotions and to accurately perceive the emotions of others is actually a skill many of us struggle with (one that robots haven’t learned yet either).

But without EQ, marriages, and relationships in general, suffer. In fact, Gottman’s research has shown that the 8 predictors for divorce have ONE major theme in common: Low Emotional Intelligence.

And this same research was 90-94% accurate at predicting which couples would make it and which ones wouldn’t, by the way…

That’s why Sharla and Robert are walking us through 3 ways we can work towards strengthening our emotional intelligence.

So, if you’re ready to become smarter than the robots, tune in and gain the skills to improve conflict resolution, resilience, and empathy.

“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” - Epictetus

In this Episode:

What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?
How EQ helps us strengthen our marriage and endure tough times
Recap on Gottman’s research
The importance of self-awareness and knowing who you are
Taking responsibility for reactions and responses
How EQ thrives on Empathy

And so much more!

Resources Mentioned:

The Gottman Method - The couples therapy technique discussed

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/
Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriag e
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage

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