Why “AND” Changes Hard Conversations
One of the smallest words in English can quietly change the emotional climate of a marriage.In this episode, we talk about the difference between “but” and “and.” “But” often cancels whatever came bef...
26 Aug 22min
Empathy: The Antidote to Contempt
We just spent two episodes looking at contempt—the number one predictor of divorce. One of the clearest takeaways is this: empathy and contempt cannot live in the same room.When contempt is operating,...
19 Aug 33min
How to Build a Contempt-Free Marriage (it's the #1 predictor of divorce!)
Last week we named the problem: contempt is addictive, corrosive, and the #1 predictor of divorce. This week we take up the harder question—how do we actually walk away from it?We open with an honest ...
12 Aug 29min
The Addiction of Contempt
In this episode, we unpack one of the most destructive forces in modern relationships: contempt.Drawing from Arthur Brooks’ book Love Your Enemies, we explore why contempt is not just a communication ...
29 Jul 31min
Breaking the Silent Treatment: How to End the Silence and Reconnect in Your Marriage
We’ve all heard (or said) those loaded words: “We need to talk.” For most of us, they immediately trigger defensiveness and dread. But what happens when conversations stop altogether? In this replay e...
22 Jul 24min
Defensiveness Is a Self-Esteem Problem (And How to Fix It)
Most of us get defensive without even realizing it — and it’s one of the fastest ways connection breaks down in marriage. In this episode, we explore why defensiveness is actually a self-esteem issue ...
16 Jul 30min
Mini Episode: Real Self Esteem, Shame & Grandiosity (Listener Questions)
In this quick mid-week bonus episode, Sharla answers two listener questions from our current series on Real Self Esteem and the distortions of shame and grandiosity.We explore:Why you can feel confide...
10 Jul 4min
How Adapting to Trauma Wires Us for Shame
This is part two of our shame series. Be sure to listen to last week's episode for an introduction into shame and how it relates to self-esteem.In this episode, we go deeper into the real reason shame...
8 Jul 29min
