Master Your Marriage1 Nov 2023

Breaking the Chains of Resentment: The Astonishing Science of Forgiveness

***If you're struggling with resentment, please consider joining our Forgiveness Mini-Course https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/ ***

“Why can’t we stick to focusing on happy, positive things, rather than creating problems where problems don’t exist?” - Person on Social Media

This was the question that came their way as Sharla and Robert shared about their weekly meeting agenda which included asking each other if there was anything they’ve done to hurt each other that should be processed and forgiven.

Well, Person on Social Media, buckle up. Your mind is about to get blown.

In this episode, we’re covering a lot of deep and also scientific ways our minds work. From inaccurate memories, to negative and positive sentiment override, and even how resentment manifests as physical pain, there’s an abundance of evidence that shows that letting go is better for you than holding on.

Tune in to listen to stories of forgiveness and strategies for how to break free from resentment.

“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to discover the prisoner was you.” - Lewis B. Smedes

In this Episode:

- Where do unprocessed hurts go?

- Negative sentiment override

- Why memories are not reliable markers

- What you compromise when you hold onto resentment

- Misconceptions about forgiveness

- What if you don’t know who you’re needing to forgive?

- What is Ho'oponopono?

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:

Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/
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Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage
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