Master Your Marriage8 Nov 2023

Divorce, Separation, Crisis - How to Cope

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Realizing that the partner you chose to be married to will likely never give you the life you always envisioned for yourself can be a pretty terrifying reality…

So, how do you hold onto your dignity and self-respect when it becomes clear that your partner can’t give you what you want?

When this is the case, is there even a chance your relationship can make it without being miserable for the rest of your lives?

Well, the answer is yes. But it’s going to take work.

It comes down to learning how to differentiate. And that’s YOU work. Not them.

So what is differentiation exactly? It’s ALLOWING someone to really matter to you, really know you, and then being able to regulate your sense of self, when that person doesn’t give you the validation you want.

And it’s extremely difficult work.

Because, let’s be honest, most of us can all be regulated and mature when we’re getting exactly what we want. But what happens when we’re not? That is when you really get to see where you need to grow. And this is likely where your marriage is requiring you to step up.

So, tune in to learn how to practice differentiation.

“I think when we recognize that we are fallible, it is a little easier to accept that other people are fallible, too.” - Sharla

In this Episode:

- How to move forward in marital crisis

- What is Differentiation?

- What does it mean to be Invalidated?

- How divorce and separation reveal who we are

- Tips for working on differentiation

And more!

MYM Resources:

8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars

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