Master Your Marriage13 Des 2023

Emotional Incompatibility: Is it a Dealbreaker?

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So you’ve heard about the 5 love languages. But have you heard about meta-emotions?

Simply put, meta-emotion is how we feel about our feelings.

And mismatching meta-emotions (how you feel about emotions vs how your partner feels about emotions) is probably the single most common reason couples present for counseling.

Like love languages, when your partner speaks a different emotional language than you, it can cause a lot of problems in the relationship and create disconnection. It tends to lead to comments and thoughts like, “You never listen to me,” or, “They just don’t get me.”

A common mismatch of meta-emotions represents this way: one person is expressive about their emotions and the other might be more dismissive, just trying to repress any negativity.

Tune in to better understand where you lie on this spectrum of meta-emotion and how to coexist in these differences.

“Differing emotional philosophies could be at the root of many of your relationship issues.” - Sharla

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