Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire with Shadeen Francis (260)

Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire with Shadeen Francis (260)

Desire is a liberating force

Dr. Ann Kelley and Shadeen Francis, LMFT unpack the intricate nature of desire, extending beyond just the sexual realm. They unpack the challenges in identifying true desires, the role of embodiment in self-awareness, and the key distinction between wanting and liking. Together they discuss intimacy, self-discovery and communication – with an emphasis on the need for negotiation and authentic connection in sexual experiences.

“The simplest of all luxuries is the freedom to pursue your pleasure.” – Shadeen Francis Time Stamps for Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire

05:15 The challenge of identifying desire
17:58 The nuances of wanting vs. liking
25:01 Desire in sexual contexts
35:07 Negotiating wants in relationships
44:41 The impact of technology on desire
56:30 Desire as a tool for liberation

About our Guest – Shadeen Francis, LMFT, CST

Shadeen Francis is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist and a board-certified sex therapist. Her expertise spans the domains of mental health, emotional intelligence, and the intersection of sexual wellness and social justice. A sought-after voice in her field, Shadeen has been featured on major networks including ABC, NBC, and CBS, and has been the subject matter expert for prominent brands such as Essence, Bumble, Tinder, and Teen Vogue. Shadeen’s work extends beyond the therapy room, influencing nationally implemented curricula, global media strategies, and public health policies. Known for her signature brand of warmth and humor, Shadeen’s work is inspired by her commitment to helping people live lives full of peace and pleasure.

Resources for Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire

shadeenfrancis.com – Shadeen’s website, resources, and other information

hello@shadeenfrancis.com – The best way to contact Shadeen

@shadeenfrancis – Shadeen’s Instagram handle

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