Diary of a Recovering People Pleaser12 Mar 2025

Ep. 35: Finding Work - Life Balance through the Power of Boundaries: an Interview with Jeff Jolton

"I think that is all about being raised male, right? That self-silencing, not being able to express your true feelings about something." - Jeff Jolton

In this episode, Jeff Jolton, an industrial organizational psychologist, shares his personal journey of overcoming people pleasing behavior in the work place and in his personal life. Jeff opens up about his struggle with balancing professional demands while also being a father and husband. He discusses how his people pleasing tendencies were driven by a pursuit of perfection in all the roles he plays in his life.

He discusses societal expectations on men, particularly the different forms of people pleasing between genders, and how they affect personal boundaries and self-worth. Jeff also provides practical advice on setting boundaries, recognizing personal wants, and the importance of being present.

This episode offers valuable insights for anyone struggling with people pleasing and how to find a work-life balance.

00:54 Professional Journey and People-Pleasing Tendencies

03:25 Balancing Work and Family

04:03 Gender Dynamics in People-Pleasing

11:17 Realizations and Turning Points

15:50 Setting Boundaries and Workplace Culture

22:50 The Power of Asking 'Why'

24:25 Dealing with Inner Criticism

28:15 Embracing Self-Worth

32:33 The Importance of Community

36:12 Improv and Personal Growth

40:27 Final Thoughts and Advice

About the Guest:

Jeff Jolton

A husband, dad of two grown boys, a life-long consultant, improv actor, dog lover and cat owner. Been in Buffalo now over 10 years - the longest I've ever lived anywhere. Went to college at Lawrence University (Psychology) and got my PhD in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Ohio University, and have worked as a consultant most of my career - helping organizations with leadership development, employee engagement, and workforce transformation. My work has allowed me to travel around the country and the world - I've been a lot of places, but haven't seen a lot (hotels, offices, and board rooms) but exposed to a range of cultures, people, and dynamics.

@jajolton on Instagram

About the Host:

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