#250: Why Some Relationships Don’t Last with Esther Perel

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth and InsideTracker. As human beings, relationships are fundamental to who we are. We know that relationships can be a big source of happiness and fulfillment in our lives, but they can also be a major source of stress. So, why is it that we often find relationships so hard? This week on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru sat down with Esther Perel to talk about how we can begin to navigate roles, expectations, and flexibility in our relationships, how we are under pressure not only to have the perfect relationship, but also to portray this illusion to others, and why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve differences. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is an executive producer and host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? In this episode, we dive into: -The need to be right in our relationships (7:00) -Reflective listening and having the ability to see multiple truths (14:51) -Role models in relationships (18:23) -Expectations in relationships (23:59) -The core pillars of why couples really fight (32:07) -Polarity in relationships (35:21) -Questions we can ask our partner that allows us to step into their perspective (39:18) -Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories (49:01) For more on Esther Perel, follow her on Instagram @estherperelofficial, on Facebook @esther.perel, on Twitter @estherperel, on YouTube @estherperel, and through her website https://www.estherperel.com. Get her board game Where Should We Begin at https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game. This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth and InsideTracker. If you’re looking for super comfortable and stylish men’s and women’s pajamas, joggers, robes, pullovers and hoodies, basically all the stuff we’re all wearing working from home these days, Cozy Earth has got you covered! So what’s Cozy Earth’s not-so-secret fabric that powers their superior comfort? It's the miracle plant bamboo! Right now, Cozy Earth is offering my audience 40% off. Head over to cozyearth.com and use the discount code DHRUPODCAST. InsideTracker looks at everything from metabolic and inflammatory markers to nutrients and hormones. Traditional lab tests can be hard to read on your own, but InsideTracker makes their results easy to understand and provides tips on how to use food first for optimal nutrition. Right now, they’re offering my podcast community 25% off. Go to insidetracker.com/DHRU. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices